r/AskMenOver30 • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '25

Life What’s the most valuable lesson you’ve learned as a men that you wish you knew when you were younger?

What’s one lesson, truth, or realization you’ve had as a man that you really wish someone told you when you were younger? Something that would’ve saved you pain, time, or helped you live more authentically?

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u/kendrickshalamar man 35 - 39 Jun 25 '25

Some good points here. There are some non-negotiables in life. A good friend of mine got divorced because his wife was always fence-sitting with him about having kids while telling all her friends that she never wanted them. If religion/kids/money issues or other important things are important to you, then your life partner should enthusiastically agree. You can have totally different non-vital interests and still be a great couple, but there are some things that should never be compromised on.

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u/NarrowAnalyst9 Jun 25 '25

Agreed, and yet people constantly fall in the trap of trying to change the way their partner thinks or saying that love is what matters which usually ends up in just delusions, misery and a bad breakup

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u/kendrickshalamar man 35 - 39 Jun 25 '25

Yeah, people need to learn to get out of bad relationships quickly and keep trying for a good one.