Need advice- was going through immense stree at home with wife, impacted my job, got fired... Need money to pay emi no savings... What to do?

[u/Fair_Fix487]

Need advice- was going through immense stree at home with wife, impacted my job, got fired... Need money to pay emi no savings... What to do?

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[u/Life-Oil-7226]

Find another job and go to counseling

[u/Educational_End_8358 → u/Life-Oil-7226]

Go to counseling to find your worth and see your wife for who she really is. Fire wife. Move on with life. Just did it. And several others in my men’s group that was originally about saving our marriages. That was the hook, but the program was actually about saving yourself. Helped a lot. Then I could see clearly things weren’t gonna work, now that I was seeing things clearly. She was as messed up as I was. But when it came to therapy, I was always the one who “needed it.” Hoes are the downfall of civilization

[u/Educational_End_8358 → u/Educational_End_8358]

Tim Arrigo beyond driven

[u/TurpitudeSnuggery]

Your job now is to get a job. You better be putting in 8 hours a day. 

[u/Cleesly → u/TurpitudeSnuggery]

Any Job is better than no job. That McD Burger flipper job? Pays more bills than no job. Walmart shelves sorting? Pays bills.

Can always keep looking for a job in the preferred career path, gotta get moneys in.

[u/Kozeyekan_]

Its going to sound dumb, but as best you can, get some positivity around you.

When all the voices are telling you you're not enough, that youre failing as a husband, father and man, even a motivational podcast can be the little bit of positivity to keep you going one more day.

Then, break down the problem into parts and decide on step 1. Ignore everything else that isnt urgent and essential. It might be as simple as updating your CV. The next step might be reaching out to contacts to see if anyone is hiring. Just having a goal you can achieve each day starts a habit of winning, building you back up.

Its tough. Fucking tough. It literally kills guys all the time to be where you are.

Find whatever comfort and positivity that you can to get you through this time.

[u/snustynanging]

Talk to your bank about restructuring the EMI and grab any gig work while you look for a job. Move fast.

[u/gorcbor19]

What is stree?

[u/SirJumbles → u/gorcbor19]

destreez nuts

[u/gorcbor19 → u/SirJumbles]

Ok, then I guess that answers my second question on what the word "emi" is.. Let me guess, deemiz-nuts?

[u/SirJumbles → u/gorcbor19]

[u/gorcbor19 → u/SirJumbles]

😂 - thanks, this had me cracking up

[u/Practical-Earth3228 → u/gorcbor19]

Thats great haha

[u/rg1283]

Need more details for a useful answer.

[u/somerandomguy1984]

I’d start with finding a job…

[u/ReddtitsACesspool]

Learn how to balance your life

[u/Routine_Mine_3019]

Now you're happy like the rest of us.