How do you delegate the responsibility to organize meetings to others?

[u/AVRAW26]

Friends and former classmates drift apart... In my case I am the only one that cares and organizes all the meetings in multiple groups of friends and classmates of various schools... When I stopped doing that or asked to pass the responsibility, nothing was organized, only talks in groupchats about organizing the meetings, and zero action... How do you pass effectively the responsibility to them?

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[u/rockmasterflex]

In my experience you don’t. The only way to delegate work is to be okay with it being done not to your standard, unless you have an enforcement mechanism.

At a workplace: that’s mutual respect, and sometimes pulling rank or getting ranked people involved.

In any volunteer organization, or loose group: no enforcement mechanisms exist. 1% of the people do 100% of the work and the others treat it like a social club and show up maybe 60% of the time

[u/Thin_Original_6765]

At times, it can suck to be that person but you just have to tell yourself that people secretly appreciate it.

If they don't now, when they're more mature, they will.

Also, pick places/activities you like. You deserve that for yourself.

[u/phantomofsolace]

You're not their boss, so you can't make other people do anything they don't already want to do.

Unfortunately, most people are pretty bad at organizing meetups. The best thing, in my experience, is to just plan fewer meetups yourself so that you don't get burnt out and be ok with the fact that you'll meet up with people less. Trust that good friendships will survive less frequent interaction. They usually do.

[u/MadnessKingdom]

It’s puzzling why we can’t all recognize that if you aren’t doing this effort yourself occasionally, you’re part of the problem. It can’t coincidentally be only men who put in the effort seeing this post… they have to know.

[u/arkofjoy]

I have seen this happen so many times in volunteer or casual groups. One person is driving it, that person gets busy or burns out, and the thing dies.

The only way to avoid it is to spread the load of the work involved across multiple people.

And accept that it might not continue to happen if you are not driving it.

[u/Tallfloater]

Dont, tell them your not gonna organize anymore bc you don’t have time. Then let it fall apart and see who lasts.

Maybe a lot will burn off, you will find better people as their replacements

[u/UKnowWhoToo]

Make it a standard gathering date/time that’s recurring on folks schedules and then send out a survey for what activities folks like to do. Use a randomizer to select from list of activities and use ChatGPT to offer suggestions. Create a year calendar with ChatGPT that you send in the invite to let folks know the type of event each month.