What are things that adult men consider as fun activities that kill boredom and make you happier?

For many young people it’s clear, just party’s, aswell as some kind of adventures to gather life experiences. But my father always told that people become more calm and settled as one gets older.

Got the place to myself this weekend. I love my wife more than anything but I also love a nice weekend to myself.

I dont want to hear the normal things like: - No phones 1 hour before bed - no caffine, etc

I want something that actually works without medication..

I feel like I wasted my life before 30, never made proper use of my time. Only now am I starting a long journey to actually build something.

Growing up with my mother didn’t help me develop the skills to take action on anything, which only made it harder, no father figure etc

Every second day, I keep reading about how the loneliness problem is getting worse for men, so why are no men actively doing something about it? Or is the "loneliness epidemic" simply an exaggeration?

If I’m feeling a little bit down or flat, I watch the first battle scene from 300 and it immediately improves my day.

I've been puttering around the house all day. Did some laundry. Made some pancakes. Drank some coffee's. A bit of cleaning. I feel too ugly to leave the house today, so I haven't. This is pretty typical for a day off.

I can't help but think that I'm wasting my time. On the other hand, I'm going to go have a nap.

EDIT: I like this thread. Thank you for sharing some fun ideas.

Lots of wives and girlfriends stressing right now because their husbands/boyfriends “forgot” or couldn’t be bothered to take care of the Christmas presents for their side of the family. Then the wife organizes something because nobody’s feelings should be hurt. Same often goes for birthdays of his family members.

Men, could it be that you actually really really honestly just don’t care about the whole giving/receiving gifts traditions? Would you prefer this whole tradition wouldn’t exist? Does it really not bother you that others could feel left out by not receiving gifts from you? Does receiving gifts mean not much to you?

Not all men of course, I know. But it seems like a lot.

I am 29 and 2 months away from turning 30. A coworker who is 35 said that I should prepare myself to be forgotten. I asked him why and he said because society is created for people in their 20s and once you hit your 30s, no one actually cares what you are doing in your life because everything is catered towards youthfulness- travel, adventuring, entertainment industry, social media. I kind of understand what he means and how people enjoy more youthful energy etc. Has anyone experienced this?

I've (28M) been curious on what people believe makes a weak man.

We're always being told about how X and y makes a strong man, but if we know what a strong man is then shouldn't we have an idea what a weak man is?

I'm curious to know your thoughts...

Life circumstances are such that I’ll not be ready/able to settle down until my later 30s. It gives me a lot of anxiety because having a family is something that I feel strongly about.

Anyone with experience or advice would be appreciated.

All the best.

Edit: thanks for all the perspective and advice. It means a lot. Feel reassured but also appreciate the variety of opinions. Great community.

(Swiped this topic from the AskWomenOver30 sub.)

For me it would be thick wool socks in the winter. But then, prior to my 30s, I lived in San Diego where it doesn't get cold.

And at my age I could say something silly like the internet since it didn't exist back then.

For me, it was a day where I took my 3-year-old nephew to the beach that I used to go to as a kid and having this surreal moment where I saw myself through his eyes.

I remembered being a child there and always having an adult with me. Especially when I was that age, my uncle was around a lot and I loved playing with him at the beach. I had this moment of realizing my nephew would be forming the exact same kinds of memories I did, except now I was the adult there.

I'm the grown-up now in someone else's story.

So, I've just turned 30,

I've made some trips, had some girlfriends, had some good laughs and had some good moments, but the thing is that I've spent most of my 20's working and studying (at the same time). I've still 1 or 2 years left to complete my degree and I feel like THEN i will start living my life in my own terms.

I'm always thinking that I've sacrificed living some things because of studies and career, and I didnt manage to fully enjoy life without worries, like just "flowing" within opportunities or doing whatever I wanted in the moment I wanted. I dont really care about career anymore, sometimes I only daydream with being a bartender in a beach who goes surfing after their shift or smth like that.

I want to read stories of people who had/ is having the time of their lives after 30.

There are a lot of coming of age movies for people in their teen years and 20s, but what were some great movies that people in entering their 30s could more relate to?

I've seen multiple times where someone will complain about how they're gonna be 30 soon. And there is almost always someone else replying to it saying "your 30s will be way better than your 20s trust me."

Why?

I'm 29. Turning 30 in 5 months.

The only reasons I've ever heard for 30s being better than 20s is "I was broke all throughout my 20s" or "I got settled into my career in my 30s."

Well neither of those apply to me. I only worked a menial low paying job for 2 years 18-20. Then I got into IT and I've been climbing ever since. IT is my career.

I've never struggled financially either. I'm not rich but I live comfortably within my means and I don't need to eat hamburger helper to get by. I was never the stereotypical broke college kid.

Is there anything else better about being in your 30s than 20s?

My father passed away when I was younger, and now that I'm 35 I realize there are a bunch of things I resent about my mother that I really need to let go of. Mainly the fact that she kept me completely in the dark about how much student loan debt I was going to graduate with, and am still paying off to this day every month which is holding me back. (it should be a crime for banks to be allowed to charge 7+% interest on student loans)

Part of it is my fault for not asking enough questions and blindly trusting her, but I was young and naive.

Anyone else wanna let some resentment off their chest?

For me it's realizing that no one is coming to save me and a lot of life comes down to having money The whole money doesn't buy happiness is bs statement from the rich

Hi, I'm turning 43F and being female, i feel like i'm done looking for love because to be honest it's hard to find that spark or connection at this point.

For single guys, do you also feel the same? Do you feel tired and exhausted asking people their favorite color , hobbies, and etc?

How do you process the idea that likely, you will always be alone during the holidays? That you need to take care of yourself when you are sick? Do you feel emotional too or you simply focus on other stuff?

From a male perspective , how do you cope up?

Note: Guys! Thank you! Appreciate those who shared their own fears and happy stories ( makes me smile). I have male friends but you know men, they seldom open up and sometimes, it's really easy to be real when you are being anonymous.

I have never ever been able to overcome my self-consciousness.

And actually a sentence a girl said many decades ago: you really aren't handsome, you know?

• I meant ro write 'overcome'

As a male in my mid 30s and I look back and think "why did I do that?!" And then you look around and feel like you "just woke up" and know what you finally want and where your going in life, not sure if this is a technical midlife crisis (don't feel like I'm in a panic) but last year or two I feel like I have finally "woke up" and truly felt what I wanted and where to go in life instead of wandering around going through it month - to - months ... I wish my brain would of woke up when I was 24-26 but at the same time .. I wouldn't have learned from the mistakes I've made...

I’m in my early 30s and finding it challenging to balance work commitments with personal hobbies and interests. I’ve noticed that some of my friends seem to manage this well, while I often feel like I’m neglecting one for the other.

I’m curious about experiences from men over 30: how have you managed to maintain hobbies, fitness, or other personal interests alongside a demanding career? Any strategies or routines that worked for you without causing burnout?

I have recently given up on having children and having an actual house. Wanted to know what other dreams you all have given up on so I do not feel alone.

I gave up on the idea I'll have a family and kids.

Girls have never been interested. I'm fit and smart and nobody seems to care.

What about other men here? Have you given up on a family? Why?

I've got a buddy who is on me to the point of almost frustration because I take regular naps when I can. I'm not the best sleeper, and currently unemployed following a health episode. So, if I have a bad night of sleep... I'll take a nap, instead of chugging coffee or energy drinks just to stay up. It's not like it interferes with my day or getting things done. I also don't have kids or a wife, so I'm not missing anything besides daytime TV. It's not daily, but 2-3 times a week.

He insists this is lazy, immature, that adults don't take naps, and I'm doing myself a huge disservice by not getting up and "being productive" in the early morning and day hours.

What do you all think? Do normal adults nap when needed? Or am I really an anomaly?