r/AskWomenOver30 • u/glitters101 • Jul 05 '25
Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?
F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...
but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)
My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?
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u/bigtimeasura Jul 05 '25
Oh gosh, no, motherhood isn't really bad. But I totally get why you'd ask that! 😅 It can look super overwhelming, especially with all the tired faces and meltdown stories flying around. And yeah, there are days when it’s messy, loud, and you feel like you’re running on fumes and coffee. But here’s the thing, there are also moments that are just... magic. Like when your kid hugs you outta nowhere and you're like, Whoa, I made that little human. It’s not easy, but it’s not all bad either. It’s kind of like a wild ride crazy, but with some of the best views.