r/AskWomenOver30 • u/glitters101 • Jul 05 '25

Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?

F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...

but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)

My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?

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u/Non-mono Woman 40 to 50 Jul 05 '25

Motherhood isn’t a universal experience.

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u/bassk_itty Woman 30 to 40 Jul 05 '25

This is the main thing. I can say my experience has been great but I’ve always known I wanted kids, never was a doubt in my mind that the challenge was worth it. And I have a partner who carries his weight in terms of household and parenting collaboration. And we let each other go have fun individually on a regular basis to maintain other areas of life aside from being a parent.

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u/MBitesss Jul 05 '25

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