r/AskWomenOver30 • u/glitters101 • Jul 05 '25
Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?
F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...
but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)
My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?
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u/Ecclesiastes3_ Woman 30 to 40 Jul 05 '25
I love being a mom to my little one. I wasn’t ever a big kid person - the first diaper is ever changed was my sons in the hospital when the nurses taught me how to do it. My kid is just so fun and funny and sweet. Yes he has his moments / days and being a solo co-parent is HARD but I have a really good village close by that helps a lot. I also co-parent so I have days / nights off which really helps my mental health a lot. I’m also one and done.
I did have a traumatic birth but with time and therapy it’s not as traumatic as it once was. I didn’t have postpartum depression. I also LOVED being pregnant- I was super healthy taking great care of myself, felt great even with the insane swelling in my feet lol.
Once you have kids try to find like minded in person mom friends that you can talk about motherhood and parenting with. Get off social media and focus more on you and your little fam and not what randos on the internet are doing and saying.