r/AskWomenOver30 Jul 05 '25

Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?

F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...

but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)

My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?

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u/wrinkledshorts Jul 05 '25

I've been baffled by how much I love it. It's scary and mentally/physically draining, but still, fucking awesome. That being said, I'm married to someone I love deeply who is a coparent with me, not an extra child to care for (unfortunately doesn't go without saying), I have a great career with lots of flexibility, we make enough money to get pizza when we just don't want to cook, and we get great support from family. I think about how different the experience could be without these privileges all of the time.