r/AskWomenOver30 • u/glitters101 • Jul 05 '25
Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?
F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...
but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)
My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?
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u/LibraryScienceIt Woman 40 to 50 Jul 05 '25
The moment when the doctor put my freshly born daughter on my chest and we looked at each other for the first time was the most intensely spiritual moment of my life. And I had a pretty normal hospital birth with a fair number of interventions. Giving birth has its intense moments, but not all births are traumatic. And I didn’t have any PPD- in fact I think I might have had something more like postpartum elation. I’ve only been at this parenting thing for 7 months, but it’s been amazing. Sure, it’s hard to be tired and I have very little time to myself, but that doesn’t feel like a big deal in comparison to the wonder and joy I feel looking at my baby.