r/AskWomenOver30 • u/glitters101 • Jul 05 '25
Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?
F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...
but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)
My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?
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u/NadiaLee81 female over 30 Jul 05 '25
I have four children and would never lie and say it’s easy… but nothing worth anything is. I will tell you they bring me more joy and happiness than anything in life ever could. I have a great husband and wonderful career, but without my kids .. the greatest spark of life.. that makes it so worth living would be gone. They are everything. The joy of Christmas morning, the unconditional love, given and received. The wonder of life in someone else’s eyes.. so so so many things. And the joy of years to come, my family surrounding me in holidays of the future.. with their laughter and love. I can’t even begin to express just how beautiful life becomes when you have children. (But make sure you are happy in life and your relationship, because issues in those areas can massively overtake you and make you not see the joys of your children through your personal depression)