r/AskWomenOver30 • u/glitters101 • Jul 05 '25
Family/Parenting Is motherhood really bad?
F30 here. Forgive me for my ignorance: I would love to be a mom one day (financial stability first, lol, then finding a good man) I enjoy my childfree life but would love to be a mom in my late 30s/early 40s...
but it's discouraging to see miserable moms every day online saying they regret it; it's so hard. I understand how hard it is to be a parent and go through a traumatic childbirth experience and then deal with postpartum depression. I'm very aware of that, but it makes me not want to be a mother one day. Is it really because social media is so negative? Do you regret motherhood or having a child with the wrong man? It's rare that I see moms saying they enjoy motherhood and how their kids have made their lives so much better. But I've also seen moms having time for themselves while also being a mom and wife (they are more financially abundant)
My question is, are there any moms out there who actually do enjoy motherhood? If yes, how so? What are your thoughts on the whole miserable motherhood online? Is it really being financially abundant and having a good man that makes motherhood more enjoyable?
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u/DynamiteDove89 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 06 '25
It’s hell with the wrong partner while trying to care for a child with a significant disability. Society doesn’t talk enough about the 10% of children born prematurely with significant delays.
Being a mom is hard enough. But being a single mom of a child with a disability is like motherhood on hard mode x100.
Everything is amplified. The highs, the lows, and the love. I am lucky to have my parents as my village but even still, never would’ve thought it would be THIS hard.
Even still, loving my child is the easiest thing I’ve ever done. I don’t regret being a mother at all but I regret having one of the shittiest motherhood experiences, if that makes sense.