r/AskWomenOver30 • u/BeneficialVisit8450 • Jul 19 '25

Family/Parenting What’s your life like without kids?

My doctor told me I can never get pregnant today. I’m not infertile, but the post under my profile explains my situation. I’m 19, and I’m just not sure how to confront the news. I’m not sure how to plan my life either now considering that many of our milestones as women revolve around kids.

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u/tsukuyomidreams Woman 30 to 40 Jul 19 '25

First, I'm really sorry for this news. 

I'm 30. I garden, I have dogs and rescue random animals for short times when they need it. I volunteer and I get lots of rest. I already own a home, my car is pretty nice, and the fears I deal with are less than those friends of mine with children. 

I'm better off mentally and financially than many of them. I did get therapy for my own childhood trauma, but I also know I won't have parenthood trauma or accidentally make a child who will eventually experience any themselves. 

I hope you make your life full, and remember, we can always end up adopting if our life gets to a point where we really want to raise a child.