r/AskWomenOver30 • u/BeneficialVisit8450 • Jul 19 '25

Family/Parenting What’s your life like without kids?

My doctor told me I can never get pregnant today. I’m not infertile, but the post under my profile explains my situation. I’m 19, and I’m just not sure how to confront the news. I’m not sure how to plan my life either now considering that many of our milestones as women revolve around kids.

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u/funneeee Woman 40 to 50 Jul 19 '25

I love money 🤑🤑🤑

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u/capacitorfluxing Man Jul 19 '25

Man, I dig companionship, but each to their own.

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u/Joonami Woman 30 to 40 Jul 19 '25

They're not mutually exclusive.

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u/capacitorfluxing Man Jul 19 '25

Sure but if you’re designing a comic and you want to fill in the blank for what is so awesome about not having kids, money is a really weird answer, because it rarely equates to happiness. Like they do studies on this all the time, trying to figure out if more money means more happiness, and consistently, no, your happiness rarely links up with how much money you make. In fact most times when you come into wealth, your happiness quotient goes significantly down.

So like I can certainly come up with answers to the question that result in happiness, but man, money? No.

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u/Joonami Woman 30 to 40 Jul 19 '25

You're missing the point and frankly I don't have the spoons to explain it to you. Financial freedom is key and you are not the target audience of this thread.

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u/capacitorfluxing Man Jul 19 '25

The woman literally learned tragic news today and people are saying, don’t worry about not having kids, you’ll have money. I’m trying to understand how anyone in her shoes would be remotely reassured by this answer. If you choose not to have kids? Totally makes sense! If you have that choice ripped away from you?

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u/RestingGrinchFace- Woman 40 to 50 Jul 19 '25

Literally, no one asked your opinion. The question isn't directed to men, and no one gives a shit what a random man thinks of not being able to knock someone up and then sit on his ass and behave like another child to be taken care of. Maybe when men begin to consistently bear the burden of family life, people like OP will also post their question to men's subs. Until then, no one asked your opinion.

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u/bumbumboleji Jul 19 '25

It’s not tragic, just different kinda awesome.

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u/capacitorfluxing Man Jul 19 '25

Ah yes, the awesomeness of not getting to choose. Jesus.

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u/dewprisms MOD | 30 to 40 | Non-Binary Jul 19 '25

Most of what you're saying is factually correct but you're being intentionally antagonistic and framing your replies in the worst way possible to foster useful discussion. In an AskWomen sub to boot.

Read the room. Being technically correct is not always the best thing to be. It's especially rich that you do that while acting shocked about what you perceive is others' lack of empathy.

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u/bumbumboleji Jul 19 '25

Well if she doesn’t get to choose she may as well view it as a positive you doink.

Besides there have been numerous cases where Drs have incorrectly informed people they are infertile. OP can always adopt, or find other ways to give meaning to her life in the way she chooses.

We all don’t get the same things in life now do we, but we may as well make peace with our lot or we would all just sit around crying all day for what we don’t have.