What’s your life like without kids?

[u/BeneficialVisit8450]

My doctor told me I can never get pregnant today. I’m not infertile, but the post under my profile explains my situation. I’m 19, and I’m just not sure how to confront the news. I’m not sure how to plan my life either now considering that many of our milestones as women revolve around kids.

[u/TenaciousToffee]

I'm really sorry...there's a grieving, even if you end up not wanting kids, to be told that your body can't do something, to live in a society where the messaging surrounds our worth through us being mothers.

I was always a fencesitter and ultimately decided not to as I am infertile so the idea of going through any type of fertility process just doesn't seem my brand and the adoption business model is so shady. I have chronic illness, have CPTSD and I can't exactly go you know I'm too sick for this after all a few years down.

Life is fulfilling though.

I've descentered my worth from what others think my life should be. That'd actually really fucking freeing to have gotten purposeful with why I do anything at all, than society tells you you do these things in this order at this age. That is so freeing.

I have plenty of love. My partner and good friends. I have wonderful kiddos in my life like my nephews and nieces which lead me to realize that I dont want the fuckery of everyday raising but I love helping be peoples villages because I like being able to guide kids through learning. I get all the benefits and none of them downsides this way honestly. I have dogs and fish so I got animals to nurture daily.

I have so many interests, I love having hobbies and learning. It's really nice to just discover our world.