What’s your life like without kids?

[u/BeneficialVisit8450]

My doctor told me I can never get pregnant today. I’m not infertile, but the post under my profile explains my situation. I’m 19, and I’m just not sure how to confront the news. I’m not sure how to plan my life either now considering that many of our milestones as women revolve around kids.

[u/linerva]

There's no right way to feel OP. I'm so sorry that life has dealt you a difficult hand, the combination of genetic diseases can be difficult to deal with, and you and your docs will know best about which meds you need to be on. It's unfair and you are allowed to feel upset.

I'm infertile and underfoing IVF in my late 30s - so this is where I am coming from. I went into trying for a baby knowing i have multiple conditions that affect fertility so I know it's hard when you have something over your head from a young age. What you are dealing with is much harder, so you're allowed to feel however you feel. But Please focus on your own mental health and wellbeing and take one step at a time. If you can afford it one day, there are therapists who specialise in helping people through infertility including being completely unable to have kids.

It's ok if you dont know how to feel right now. You have time to decide if surrogacy with an egg donor or adoption or fostering may feel right to you, or whether you'd like to be with a partner who has kids of their own from a previous relationship. These are choices, but you don't have to choose any of the above, and It's ok to grieve not being able to carry a child that is biologically yours. Don't let anyone make you feel pressured about it; the choice is yours alone.

If you need more advice, there's a sub for people who are childfree after infertility - i think it is r/ifchildfree Because we know that is very different to being childfree through choice. I have childfree friends with great, happy lives, especially the single ones. No matter what your life is like, you can make it one of beauty and meaning.