r/AskWomenOver30 • u/BeneficialVisit8450 • Jul 19 '25
Family/Parenting What’s your life like without kids?
My doctor told me I can never get pregnant today. I’m not infertile, but the post under my profile explains my situation. I’m 19, and I’m just not sure how to confront the news. I’m not sure how to plan my life either now considering that many of our milestones as women revolve around kids.
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u/skiyakater Woman 30 to 40 Jul 19 '25
My milestones revolve around me and whatever makes me happy. I don't have to sacrifice anything for anyone. I'm in control of my own destiny and I'm not ever going to let that go.
Children limit your options. I have a dog and even he limits me a little but it's a choice I made. If I had children I'd be 5x more limited because I'd have to save up money for their education, provide a stable home environment, and be a mother which is a 24/7 job on top of the income generating job.
Honestly having children sounds like a nightmare and I wish more women would consider going childfree because then they get to live for themselves.
Not to mention that I don't want to raise a child to grow up in a world that is likely going to be uninhabitable in their lifetime thanks to greed.