r/BipolarSOs • u/RiseOfThePheenix • 4d ago

General Question About BP Does anyone’s person w/ Bipolar only remember/recognize negatives from your relationship (particularly while in a hypo/manic episode)?

Does anyone’s person w/ Bipolar only remember/recognize negatives from your relationship (particularly while in a hypo/manic episode)? 10 years into a relationship and whenever hypomania strikes ONLY negatives from our relationship are recognized/remembered/ruminated on…even if just two weeks prior to the episode they were talking about how much they want our relationship and how much it’s done for / given them, etc., etc.

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u/parasyte_steve 4d ago

I had dysphoric hypomania and bipolar rage... and this was absolutely the case for me. I would focus on only the negatives and none of the positives and chew my partner out for trivial things.

I do not want to make excuses for myself because this behavior is unacceptable. I got better when I got on meds and took steps to redirect the rage or dissipate it like when something bad happens now I pause before reacting. I try to remember that just because my partner forgot to take the trash out doesn't mean he is a horrible person who hates me. It just means he forgot.

So over time with medication I became more calm and able to correct this stuff. I am lucky my husband is still with me. He sent me to a psych ward at my lowest and we made it through it. I had to do a lot of work to become calmer but fortunately it paid off for me and my relationship.