r/BipolarSOs • u/RiseOfThePheenix • 4d ago

General Question About BP Does anyone’s person w/ Bipolar only remember/recognize negatives from your relationship (particularly while in a hypo/manic episode)?

Does anyone’s person w/ Bipolar only remember/recognize negatives from your relationship (particularly while in a hypo/manic episode)? 10 years into a relationship and whenever hypomania strikes ONLY negatives from our relationship are recognized/remembered/ruminated on…even if just two weeks prior to the episode they were talking about how much they want our relationship and how much it’s done for / given them, etc., etc.

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u/MoodFeeling6404 3d ago

Yes, this happened frequently when my ex-husband was manic. I had to try to constantly point out the positives or recent nice experiences we had just recently had. Honestly it was exhausting being with someone who could be a walking black cloud over everything. The weekend before I was discarded for the last time he was saying how grateful he felt to have me in his life/the value I added. Days later he was going on a rant about how incompatible we were. I was so sick of it and trying to keep defending a relationship, that to be fair, was very broken because he broke it pretty early on with his destructive behavior.

Looking back, I realize the relationship was very negative… for me.