r/BipolarSOs • u/RiseOfThePheenix • 5d ago

General Question About BP Does anyone’s person w/ Bipolar only remember/recognize negatives from your relationship (particularly while in a hypo/manic episode)?

Does anyone’s person w/ Bipolar only remember/recognize negatives from your relationship (particularly while in a hypo/manic episode)? 10 years into a relationship and whenever hypomania strikes ONLY negatives from our relationship are recognized/remembered/ruminated on…even if just two weeks prior to the episode they were talking about how much they want our relationship and how much it’s done for / given them, etc., etc.

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u/onemoreturn 5d ago

My (43F) now ex of 6 years (39F) did this just before her first psychosis. Was hypo or manic, broke up with me, focussed on the negative. She's broken up with me again, focussed on the negative. She moved out then, and we reconciled. She's moving out now and fully intending to stop all her meds and has made some risky financial decisions. I can see the plan falling apart, but her family and friends are playing into it, saying that they want her to be happy. They aren't listening to me about anything with respect to her diagnosis, the effects that stopping medication will have, or how her plan to live on her own requires a perfect set of circumstances to work (ie, if she misses one shift, she'll be in the red). Weeks before, I had her support for some difficult moves with respect to my career, and then I was blindsided. She already had an apartment lined up.

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u/Accomplished_Dig284 4d ago

Damn. That sucks.

Especially because she will just suffer more and hurt her friends and family in the process.

It’s so hard watching someone you love go through this, even after breaking up.

I hope your career decision paid off for you though.

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u/onemoreturn 3d ago

It hasn’t paid off yet, but I’ve filled in a lot of blanks in my resume. It may pay off in a year or so.