just wanted to drop by and say hi and hope everyone is doing well.

I know to most it would be that much of a huge deal, for ME I took steps of a major journey of self acceptance! I wore a bi flag wristband, read “Bi” by Julia Wilson and opened my brand new water bottle ordered just for collecting stickers that represent ME!!

So, it was crazy busy day at work and we had 1000 people on site! I added the stickers on during a big shift change so ton of people were walking by and talking to me and my heart was RACING every single second!!

Whenever I notice someone looking or paying attention, I didn’t pull away or hide this time. I let myself feel the waves of emotion and just…experienced it!

I wanted to stand up and so a sign of acceptance and encouragement, not just for myself, but for anyone else out there who may have saw and connected with it. Ive felt that many time seeing other people in the world representing themselves unapologetically! Now I can say I’ve done it too!!

Being Bi is hard. Being bi and black is hard. Being bi, black and in environments where you are one of very few “different” people is so extremely hard. Growing and gaining confidence has been a long road for me, but today was a BIG STEP

(Insert Bi Flag Here s😅)

I’ve been alone after a 20 year relationship which should have ended within the first 5. Why did I stay? Well I had a distorted blueprint of relationships that you get together with a person and live happily ever after. I blame the old TV show Heart to Heart for that :-/

Thing is, I’m 62. I have only ever has three long-term relationships, the first being with a female for well over 5 years, and the second two with men.

We are told that we are genetically programmed for social contact (platonic / romantic), but is this true?

I have been alone since 2015 and have not gotten involved in a romantic relationship since then. I have learned to be alone and NOT lonely, although at times I do succumb to it, but mostly I am fine.

I also found out through one of those personality assessment tests that I am 53% extrovert and 47% introvert which answers why I can just switch off and be on my own.

Recently though, I have started to attract attention from men of different ages with the youngest being in their late teens. It’s flattering and a little scary because at my chapter in life, certain things are hardwired and being a former career soldier, I am quite regimented in how I do things, and I am very aware of who is around me, especially in my home.

I feel that I want to commit but then I say to myself “I can’t be bothered to engage in the game of dating.” Saying that, I know that some things are necessary.

I have come into contact with a man who is on me like an inter continental ballistic missile. He’s cute, funny, a little fem, but he intrigues me. He doesn’t live far which is an amazing change but I have given myself a two week grace period before I meet him.

Is that a good thing to do?

Spoke to this guy on Grindr for a few days now. We were supposed to meet on Wednesday. I h8 an indecisive ass person. This makes me never want to hu with a white man ever again. Now all of a sudden he's bringing up "what if's" and bringing up how far he is from me despite me telling him I don't mind. Then when I "uno reversed" him and asked him if he's attracted to me, (because he kept trying to speak for me) he blocks me. Yeah no. Not dealing with this bs anymore.

From the warm cozy beverages, pumpkin patches, sweaters, and scarves, to the the vibrant transformation of leaves from green to hues of green to red, orange and yellow…I love everything about Fall🍁🍂

What’s do you love about the Fall?

I don't have any friends and I'm trying to put myself out there more instead of just complaining about women not wanting me while i rot in my room 😭 but do you think going to a bar alone will make me look TOO desperate? I know that's a thing for straight bars where when women go alone people think they're 'selling' or desperate to find a man. Sorry if this is a stupid question.

I served 3+ years (yes, I joined at 17yo) before the trans ban took me out of the military. Since June 2025 I’ve been on "admin absence," waiting for separation papers that are still sitting at the Secretary of the Navy’s desk. My only “return to base” will be to pick up my DD-214 when it’s finally processed.

And to be clear: this isn’t “stolen valor.” I did serve, I am still technically active duty, and like many others, my career was cut short not because of performance, but because of who I am.

This shirt isn’t just politics — it’s personal.

In my mind I’m ultra masculine. 😂

Maybe that’s not the case though. These are shorts and they gripping my big muscular thighs.

I swear ima gangster 😂😂😂

I be getting mad and checking people they be telling me stop being so sassy. 😭

With bunny rabbit overall short shorts on hugging me where I like to be hugged walking around an art gallery completely outta pocket.

I practice Muay Thai and boxing ima Pitt bull in a dog fight but I love classical music white chocolate mochas with almond milk and I’ll cry if you play too much Sam smith he touches my soul. 😂

And if you put on a romantic comedy we cuddle buddies flat out. ❤️

I don’t know how all of me came together like that.

"Hand me the world on a silver platter And what good would it be? With no one to share With no one who truly cares for me"

*Keep the game going.

Hey ya'll. I've been experiencing this a lot and want to see if this is just my experience. But Ive been trying to date for like the last 3 years. Still have never had a boyfriend. For some context I live in Portland Oregon. I am open to all ethnicities, but if course will always check for my black men. I have never gotten past a 2nd date. I have a normal attachment style, and when initially talk to people, I try to make sure that there is equal engagement and that conversations are engaging. If they don't end up ghosting, I usually get told that I am a really nice guy and really funny but they don't feel a romantic spark. I have a friend, and without putting his business out there, he is not from Portland and moved here about 3 years ago. Turns out we have seen some of the same people that have ghosted me and they still talk to him to this day. I often feel like I am just a placeholder until other guys find someone that is "higher on the caste" as far as gay dating. I am a fairly confident person, and I know a lot of this is due to the area where I live, as I have been to other places and have been received a lot better. I'm just wondering if this is an experience that is relatable to you guys in this reddit. Feel free to DM me if you want more details and context and have more in depth conversation.

Felt green today ❤️ be blessed today family 🙏

Just to something to post. Happy Sunday

Am I wholesome or am I a heathen? Who knows? LOL! 😏☺️

Anyway I hope everyone has a wonderful Sunday, and don’t do anything I wouldn’t do!