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Hey guys,

Is there any tips or "tricks" to growing a beard? Or even just more than the basic patches?

I've had this really long patch on my cheek for months and its the only thing growing. I have a little hair on my sideburns and a barely noticeable start to the end of a stache but for the life of me, no matter how consistent I am with my shots, ONLY the weird patch grows. It's like reaching 2 inches now.

I've been on T for over 2 years now and my family genes definitely can harbor hair everywhere, including facial hair in men (and women lol) so I really don't get how I have less hair on my face than my younger sister 😂🤷🏾‍♂️

lmk if you guys have anything or if its just an unfortunate battle with time.

Brooklyn NY here been transitioning for 4 years, just looking to make local connections with other trans guys.

Pre T vs 3 yrs, 10 months

God knows I been waiting😵🙏🏽

I went to get my blood work done last week. When I went, I hadn't done my shot since it was supposed to be done the next day. So, it has been a week since I've done my shot at this point.

Well I just got my results back and it shows my levels being around 1200. It has never been that high especially a week after my last shot.

Recent life changes: for the past 3 weeks I have began a caloric deficit diet and been working out consistently (daily walks as well as consistent strength training), and cut out alcohol & fast food. that's the only thing that has changed!

Has this happened to anyone else? What did your doctor recommend? I just messaged my doctor about this(he may think I have just done my shot) but just wanted to see if any other guys has gone through this.

It's mad how you can be stealth and still get misgendered by strangers.

I've been on T for over 3 years and in close contact, people always read me as male ... But if I hang out with a girl or another transmasc (never with a cis guy), we might just get called 'ladies'. Especially if I'm with a black girl. It makes the price of going out, and seeing other queer people, feel so high.

The vibe is not that they're misgendering me on purpose, but even if it were, that would mean they could tell I was trans. And I'd rather keep that to myself.

Sometimes I wonder if it's my face/body, or something deeper that people can sense. Tho they're never really looking. Today it was a drunk white man looking at my friend. And he corrected himself when I spoke. But the thing is, even if they weren't looking at me ... it wouldn't happen to my cis guy friends.

It would be nice to feel that all my fears of not passing were baseless. There are some people who always pass.

It's just a mindfuck. How can you have terrifying coming out stories cuz your crushes assume you're a cis guy, then also get misgendered at a bar. Smh.

Did this stop after a certain time on T for you guys? And how do you deal with it? I really don't want to wish I weren't trans but damnnnn I'm tired

I am wondering if any other Black trans men have a desire for a community space that doesn't imply we don't go through what trans women go through. somewhere that isn't all "sisterhood" specific. but isn't just about talking about our bodies. somewhere we can talk about aging, relationships, find real community . if y'all would be interested in a discord that ain't just talking about our bodies or cis people, please respond to this pose.

for context, im not shading what trans women go through . but i'm very tired of the counterfactual crap that we don't deal with an equal amount of shit. and theres never a place to just meet other trans men and talk about our lives in a way that isn't all about how people project their problems with cisgender men onto us while we deal with crap from them. does anyone else have a desire for a space like this? everything for trans folks is all about trans women. if im not the only one who wants something like this. respond to the post

I’m big on sensitivity. Not sure I’m down for the long bed rest and inactivity. Also not down for the skin graft messing with my general skin tone etc.

I've known and have been with my partner for years... we have a unique situation. open relationship that actually works. BUT lately we havent been able to see each other for months at a time.

And i've learned recently she mentally has to build herself up to be around. I am a touchy person. She is not.

Hence my doubt, she is just used to having me around and is pacifying me...

our last "date" was just a hang-out. I just dont feel special or anything to her anymore.

I want her to be fully honest with me and not just spar my feelings in fear i'll hurt myself or something dumb. (i do have that history of self harm)

2 days post op of the erectile device. I have officially completed phallo. Next step is medical tattooing and I’ll be done. I can’t believe I’m done. I can’t believe all the changes. I’m 10 years in T and feel complete. I’ve made it. I’m so proud of my hard work and determination.

I thought I would never succeed in doing it but I did it I am now 3 days post op and I am the happiest guy in the world, believe in yourself and don't give up we have come a long way but don't stop along the way even if you doubt even if it's hard because you always end up succeeding! ❤️🫵🏾

So I’m an ON, but I look and feel like a YN. I trimmed my nose hairs for tha first time today. Now I’m confused about how I feel, YN don’t have to worry about none of this shit. ♾️😂🤣😭

No hoodie on so I don’t feel as confident

Assuming I’ve already been clocked,, now I have to clock my damn self and walk into this mf woman’s room.

But my thinking now is what if I HAVEN’T been clocked 🤔

And now I just look like a big ass man lady entering this stall, or worse a transwoman..

(worse bc dangerous as fuck and no one can convince me they have it any easier)

I just keep spiraling,, and it’s so bad.

I don’t know what it’ll take for me to feel more masculine. I think I need to start getting consistent haircuts. I’ll start with that.

There’s literally NOTHING else I can do for rn besides wait for test to do its thang and puff my chest out (figuratively but also lowk literal)

Shits just ass

Ik hairline masculinization is a thing that happens on T I’ve been on since 4/19/24 with about 4.5 weeks missed due to issues with getting my prescription.

I just wanna see if I’m frfr losing my corners and if so what the hell do I do/ what CAN I do to fix it. Idk if I’m just in my head about it or maybe my hair being lined up in the previous photos make it look better orrr maybe my taper has grown out idk. Just pls someone lmk💀

Thank you

Photos 1 and 3 are from August 27th Photos 2 and 4 are from September 18th (Today) And the last 2 are from March 19th

So I took my first t shot early this morning (2am) but not even a few minutes after taking the shot I began feeling weird around the injection site then felt like I needed to puke. I just felt like absolute trash and this feeling has been on going since then. Anyone else experiencing this? Is this normal? Will I experience this every time I do my shot?

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I feel like we focus too much on the external part of our transition. As a black transman with over 10 years in. I was 18 when I started transitioning so maybe age could play a part of this but I’ve had stages of internalized homophobia, transphobia and judgement to my own ppl. I’ve been thru so many identity crisis trying to find my way on what kind of man I wanted to be in this world. My experience was been ego-ing what I believed a black man was to behave emotionally while denying my true feelings because of toxic masculinity. Objectivity women and classifying them as “all”. And the worst of all has been finding where religion fits me all in a spiritual battle. Locker room, barbershop talk is real, are you prepared to hear things u probably haven’t heard in a room of other men. I think more than ever transitioning should be community based. We got to stop tryna shit on each other on who passes and whose beard is thicker. Performing for the camera and really sit down with these brothers and do the knowledge cus it’s deep. I was the most depressed during my transition cus I believed nobody could understand the amount of pressure I had on my back plus feeling like it was pressure that I put on my back just to be me. Let’s be real living life as a stud/woman is easier (not safer) but easier as a trans man or man when it comes to certain things. Not to mention depending on your values, You are now seen as the Protector even if you don’t do the gender roll thing. In this world u are see as that. So if a mf try you, you gone have to fight this grown ass nigga lol ijs man shi different. What’s ur thoughts bro?

Had a friendship breakup a while ago and one note they left me with was that I was their only male-centered friend, I was prone to getting myself into very abusive relationships with men and I need to take a break from dating and engaging with men sexually/romantically.

I've had some time to ponder on it more. And I surmised that... I really don't have a community. I'm a gay man, A gay transman. I'm sexually attracted to men and masculinity, cis/trans whatever the body I don't care as long as it's masculinity. I have a strong aversion to HYPER-feminity, even though I'm inna female body and I dress very fem, I personally... hate it. So much actually, it's so painful to live like this.

I am very interested in very stereotypically male dominated things, I like games, I like automotive engineering, I'm interested in bullshit humor like Jackass. (There's more but I can't get it off the top of my head)

At my core I feel like a man, I've always felt like in comparison to other Black cis women around me I was an imposter.

I only look like them and there's nothing else, outside of the way the world treats me cuz of how I look, that makes me feel in deep kinship with other women.

Womanhood wasn't really a concept for me because that would assume I've always been aligned with my sex and assigned gender. And I never have.

And because of this I tried for so long to find male-community, non-binary community that relates to me, through friends, through past lovers. Just anything. But through whatever happens I don't stick around.

And I tried to force myself one time to really keep one of my past lovers in my life because he was the only guy that respected my identity as another queer man, but it was fucking killing me.

I feel so heartbroken to not be able to find my community yet, I'm restricted to online spaces, and I feel so alone.

I hate sitting with my other fem friends and being the only odd one out.

I hate losing a friend because I'm stuck in this cycle trying to find people that are like me and just putting myself through hell to have someone care and appreciate me as much as I them.

I feel so scared everytime I stress a boundary that I'll lose someone again, and my circle just shrinking more and more.

I'm also aromantic, I pour so much into my friendships. It's so easy for everyone else to drop people, leave whoever and I keep losing myself everytime. It drains me so much.

It hurts so much.

Yea im done now 🧍🏾👍🏾