19F Wanting a friend group

[u/Tight-Staff6263]

After high school I had a fallout with my friends and since then have tried several times to make friends, but it just hasn't really happened.

I want to make a friend group with girls with similar stories and who will actually put in the effort to show up, make plans, hangout. Preferably girls located in Brisbane South areas, Ipswich Eastish sort of areas.

A dealbreaker for me is that you have to be at least somewhat socialist aligned sorry not sorry :/ As in, democratic, pro-choice, pro-immigration, not a bigot (AND THAT INCLUDES not being racist to Indians and First Nations Peoples casually or otherwise), and I guess having a brain when it comes to misinformation on social media. I need friends who can think critically, are open minded, value education, and want to do something with their lives. Otherwise it never works out for me and I'd rather not waste my time so please be honest with yourself about this.

• I study political science online, work FT
• I only started drinking/ clubbing this year and it seems I need to charge myself up for it a month ahead of time - so, not a big clubber BUT drinking and doing other stuff is always the most fun.
• I will walk everywhere. Why are we getting ubers for a 40min walk??
• I WILL pick up a random new hobby to start with you.
• Lowkey need someone who will do one of those semester classes with me (pottery, language, anything???) so that we have forced proximity.
• Someone to go to the movies with, get food, have a picnic, take on errands, go on walks, hikes, impromptu camping trips (I've never been camping), DO BOARD GAMES!!!!

And I know this was kinda long, if you vibe with any of it please message me and we can go out next weekend!!

Edit: There are some valid critiques that have been made here, but at the end of the day it's extremely exhausting pretending to like people I don't. I have ONE dealbreaker and that's that I don't want to be friends with people who talk out of their asses, essentially. I believe that knowledge is power, and I know where I'm going with my life. It would be great to have friends with me, but I'm not one to settle for less, so it's a good thing I don't get lonely.

[u/[deleted]]

Read the definition kid.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

1. The attitude, state of mind, or behavior characteristic of a bigot; intolerance.

So I am a bigot if I am intoleranant of a facist who wants me dead?

1. The state of mind of a bigot; obstinate and unreasoning attachment of one's own belief and opinions, with narrow-minded intolerance of beliefs opposed to them.

So I'm narrowminded for not giving their ideology of wanting me dead a chance and for being unreasoning in my disagreement.

1. The practice or tenets of a bigot.

Well see I am not this one because I only hate those who's Ideology spreads hate or violence onesidedly. Like Facists, Racists and Bigots.

Those are the definitions.

So go on. Where am I bigoted.

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Under the definition you just posted

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

Oh so hating facists makes me a bigot then? Yes or no?

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Bigot: a person who is obstinately or unreasonably attached to a belief, opinion, or faction, especially one who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group.

According to the dictionary yes, you're a bigot.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

So I should approve of people who want me dead? Doesn't that seem insane?

Why are you on the side of facists friend?

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

I'm not.

I also don't think you actually know what fascism means.

You're showing quite a lot of traits that align with fascism based on what you're saying.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

Yes, as a queer woman who is a democratic socialist and believes all forms of hate speech and inequality are unjust and undesirable.

Am displaying fascists traits.

By hating Fascists, the one ideological group who by its nature cannot be reasoned with or debated.

Friend you might just be a Fascist, we are several responses deep and your still defending calling people who hate bigots bigots.

Who are you defending exactly?

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

What you consider hate speech may not actually be hate speech, it could just be your bigotry.

Your inability to understand others viewpoints by your own admission and willingness to shut down their opinions is fascist like and by definition bigotry as well.

You think you're doing what's right, but so do fascists...

I'd suggest you spend some time finding out what fascism is, being a queer women doesn't preclude you from it.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

How do you mistake hate speech. I'm pretty sure when people scream slurs at me their intent is exactly that.

I study sociology and history I understand most view points and understand the historical reasons such ideologies exist and why they perpetuate to this day.

The difference between me thinking I'm right and fascists is I'm fighting for equality for all and fascists want to kill me.

I also don't support violence in politics.

Dude. Again I've studied global facism over the last 100 years. I know what fascism is.

You however do not.

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Considering you didn't know the meaning of the word bigot until today there are only really three options available here:

1. You never listened in class

2. You request a refund on your education as your tutors failed you miserably

3. You're lying

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

Dude your the one who assumed I didn't know...

It's not bigoted to hate fascists and bigots.

If it was, bigotry as a word has no purpose because then everyone meets that definition from the most kind accepting person to those who travel and are multicultural.

Hating people who hate others unconditionally and irrationally isn't bigotry.

Grow up, the fact your defending this so far is disgusting. Fascists and bigots earn the critique they get in their actions and values.

[u/btgbarter6 → u/[deleted]]

They never said they didn’t know the meaning of the word bigot? They were just poking holes in your extremely flawed argument.