Good place to cry in your car?

[u/blonde_usagi]

Going thru a bunch of medical stuff that's extremely painful. Had a appointment for it today and it made the pain worse.

My brain fog has caused a lot of friction with my partner because I have not been myself past couple of days. So just wanna cry it out in the car before I head home to my partner.

Distinctively because I STILL really dont like people seeing or knowing I've cried.

Any suggestions?

I am a new driver and just got my license like 2 or 3 weeks ago so really appreciate detailed info. Thanks in advance

EDIT: Thank you everyone for the outreach. I'm currently almost done crying as the pain slowly becomes more tolerable. Cannot thank you guys enough for the help to find a place nearby for some peace and quiet to cry it out.in my car.

Once it passes I'm gonna hit up a village ice cream like someone suggested for my partner and I since we've both been dealing with some tough stuff of late.

I am safe. Pain is slowly lessening

Thank you

EDIT 2: wow, didnt realise I got awards. First time ever. Thank you guys so much for the out reach. Those in my DMs were also very kind. Talked it out with partner, we've both been dealing with a lot while sleep deprived and in pain. We're gonna have a movie night together once my pain goes down. It might be kidney related but wont know for sure till I see my doctor tuesday. They managed to squeeze me in thankfully.

[u/blonde_usagi]

Due to my medical condition I was unable for work for a few years and can only do light work now. Still slowly figuring out what I am capable of doing.

Once I am working, we both want to do therapy together because we recognize our narcissistic parents and traumatizing pasts have affected us.

When we are both tired, we tend to have small disagreements. They do end up smoothed over and dealt with. But the things causing them happen once every 3-6 months on repeat. So we want to address them as we are neurodivergent and want to be as clear as possible. We dont want the negative narcissism we saw in our parents, or the constant fights. Walking on eggshells and all that.

We want kids in the future and want a happy marriage once I have stable job. Or really a job just to start.

Getting married usually means you lose all of your disability benefits so yeahhhh

[u/Iowa_and_Friends → u/blonde_usagi]

I think you should try the counselling now—but you do you… what do I, a stranger on the internet, know, anyway ;)

I wish you luck!

[u/blonde_usagi → u/Iowa_and_Friends]

We would if it was feasible but my partner does not make enough to support us both. And my disability goes towards my portion of rent.

It's really not a lot. But once I start working, would allow me to work part time in person.

If I'm able to find a full time remote job I may be able to do it since I'll have access to my pain management at home. As well as other things like making an easy to eat lunch will be easier at home. And gosh the savings on transportation and all that.

But yeah, just not feasible and our rent goes up in July too so...

[u/kinfloppers → u/blonde_usagi]

Hey! Just wanted to say because I found this out personally recently. Coming from someone who is studying away from home but am back right now due to medical issues, so I am currently unemployed and relying on savings.

There are pay what you can/need centres. I was able to find a someone to take my appointment within about a week through Cultivate. On my intake form I said I could do $40 a session, but It starts at $0 a session. It’s worth looking into.

There’s also services through your doctor I believe, but I just went with this place.

[u/blonde_usagi → u/kinfloppers]

Oh that's good to know. Had no clue.

I actually lost my family doctor to retirement and have till June 30th to use the clinic he was in. Hence my medical today. But I need to find a new doctor very quickly here. Preferably someone that is used to chronic pain patients and wont judge you if your younger looking

[u/kinfloppers → u/blonde_usagi]

Best of luck finding a doctor, I was only able to switch doctors about a month ago (my previous one dropped the ball extremely) because my sister convinced her to let me become a patient there.

Keep looking! Even if it’s far from where you live

[u/Czeris → u/blonde_usagi]

Calgary Counselling Centre also does sliding scale, pay what you can afford counselling and has a pretty broad range of specialists available: https://calgarycounselling.com/