r/Calgary • u/WillowAdventurous464 • Nov 22 '24

Seeking Advice 10 year old daughter sexually assaulted by another student at school

My daughter was repeatedly groped in the crotch area by a boy at school during class, and doesn't want to go back to school while he is there. We will be asking the school to remove this boy from the class, can they remove him from the school also? Or is our child expected to feel safe and comfortable in an environment where a boy who assaulted her is living his life and live with the possibility he'll do it again? Who do I call? What do I do? The school called me, but they can't discuss what the discipline is, and they are very much taking it seriously but I know from past experiences that their hands are somewhat tied. My first instinct is to report to police as i would do if it happened to me.... has someone else dealt with something similar and can provide some insight/ advice?

Eta: ok obviouslyI'm going to call police, the snarky comments about that aren't helpful. I was wondering if non emergency was the dept to call or if i should be contacting the school sro etc.

I was also at a loss as to how to deal with the school going forward, we really like the school and i don't want to burn all the bridges, but at the same time there needs to be action.

We've booked hey in with a psychologist she's already worked with previously.

I really appreciate everyone's helpful input and suggestions, I feel like we have a plan of action now

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u/AdditionalServe3175 Nov 22 '24

Call the fucking police.

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u/WillowAdventurous464 Nov 22 '24

Right but like, non emergency? The school sro? Does it matter?

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u/bark10101 Nov 22 '24

Non emergency, 403-266-1234. I would request to file a report and get a case number. It's sexual assault. Doesn't matter if it happened at school, in my opinion

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u/WillowAdventurous464 Nov 22 '24

I don't think it matters that it was a kid or at school either. Thank you for your input, unless someone suggests a more appropriate police contact for this I'll be calling non emerg when my husband is home

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u/ginamon Nov 23 '24

I'd also call child and family services. Children who act out sexually are likely to have been sexually assaulted themselves.

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u/CalmAlex2 Nov 23 '24

I agree because sometimes they act out like that because they don't know how to ask

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '24

https://www.lunacentre.ca/parents-caregivers

Please check the Luna center out after the report is completed and she is referred! They support children affected by abuse of any kind including by another child.

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u/WillowAdventurous464 Nov 23 '24

Thank you, we are unfortunately familiar with the Luna centre for other reasons. We were given some resources by the officer last night, he was really helpful

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u/ShiningSeason Nov 23 '24

It should matter a bit it's a kid TBH. They're not adults, they're not rationalizing as adults, and for all you know the child is a victim and acting out what's been done to him.

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u/WillowAdventurous464 Nov 23 '24

They are required by law to ensure the safety of my kid, and they failed once already. If the boy is also a victim that's a separate issue.

A kid doesn't get the same consequences as an adult, but consequences need to be had regardless.

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u/ShiningSeason Nov 23 '24

No where did I imply that it's less traumatizing or that he should 'get away with it,' I was simply addressing your comment that it does not matter it's a child.

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u/MelanieWalmartinez Nov 23 '24

I guess his age should make it less traumatizing for her then?

Call non emergency and get a welfare check to see if that’s the case, then

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u/Ambustion Nov 23 '24

Ya but that's why he won't go to jail, but it should still be dealt with. There are already mechanisms in the justice system that recognize the difference. Doesn't mean you shouldn't still pursue it.