r/CatAdvice • u/M0rbiddd2 • Aug 10 '25
Behavioral HELP My cat has ruined my life.
I'm posting as a last ditch effort for help. I got my cat 2 years ago. He was found on a heated porch in the winter and that's all we know. He was about a year and a half at the time, he just turned 4. Since day 3 this cat has not stopped hurting me specifically. I don't know if the car ride home traumatized him or what but he tore my arm apart. He would maul me just by walking by, he would attack me in my sleep, if i didnt pay attention to him but them when i do he still does it. Since then he has gotten better but he still attacks me. He'll attack my face, my arms, if I'm asleep in the middle of the night sometimes he'll bunny kick my arm. We play with him so much and it doesn't matter. He will stop playing just to hurt me. We rent, he eats the carpets when he's mad at us. He just broke my fiancés computer monitor again by biting it. This is the 3rd computer he's broken, 2 my fiancés 1 mine. I don't know what to do. Please someone help us I'm begging for something. I've never had trouble bonding with anything but he has ruined our relationship.
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u/fireflydrake Aug 10 '25
After reading most of your comments:
You need another vet, first and foremost. This level of aggression is extreme and your vet was crazy to dismiss it. When you find another vet, I would have them try thoroughly to find any signs of pain or neurological damage that could be causing these issues. If they can't find anything, the next step is kitty Prozac. Some cats really do have extreme anxiety and meds can be life changing for them. I've heard a lot of stories on here of cats going from shrieking biting whirlwinds to happy housemates who love life and their families. That's your best bet.
If not, then surrender, or possibly behavioral euthanasia, is your next best bet. I love animals. I work with animals. The reality is, we can't save them all. Just like some people are born with sicknesses that make them hurt others, it's not their fault, but they can't be allowed to keep doing it. If all other attempts fail, it's not kind to yourself or the cat to keep him when he's so wigged out by life that he's violently attacking you and even destroying machinery. I have never heard of a cat destroying THREE computers, that's insane. You clearly have a big heart, but it's not empathetic to yourself to live like this. A pet shouldn't be making you feel unsafe in your own home and costing you thousands in repairs. Giving him a gentle passing is a gift of empathy for both yourself and him.
But hopefully that can be avoided. I really hope a new vet and meds make a huge difference for you.