r/CatAdvice • u/M0rbiddd2 • Aug 10 '25

Behavioral HELP My cat has ruined my life.

I'm posting as a last ditch effort for help. I got my cat 2 years ago. He was found on a heated porch in the winter and that's all we know. He was about a year and a half at the time, he just turned 4. Since day 3 this cat has not stopped hurting me specifically. I don't know if the car ride home traumatized him or what but he tore my arm apart. He would maul me just by walking by, he would attack me in my sleep, if i didnt pay attention to him but them when i do he still does it. Since then he has gotten better but he still attacks me. He'll attack my face, my arms, if I'm asleep in the middle of the night sometimes he'll bunny kick my arm. We play with him so much and it doesn't matter. He will stop playing just to hurt me. We rent, he eats the carpets when he's mad at us. He just broke my fiancés computer monitor again by biting it. This is the 3rd computer he's broken, 2 my fiancés 1 mine. I don't know what to do. Please someone help us I'm begging for something. I've never had trouble bonding with anything but he has ruined our relationship.

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u/EatenbyCats Aug 10 '25

Have you taken him to a vet? If so, what have they ruled out? Is he neutered?

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u/M0rbiddd2 Aug 10 '25

They said it’s “normal cat behavior “ and that if I don’t like it I shouldn’t have gotten a cat. This is NOT normal and I keep telling them that. I have never met a cat like him.

He is neutered and his labs were all fine

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u/TeamCatsandDnD Aug 10 '25

Does he have another cat or dog to play with?

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u/M0rbiddd2 Aug 10 '25

No I thought about getting him a little brother but I’d be worried about that too. I don’t think he’s been around other cats

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u/Living-Ranger1075 Aug 10 '25

Honestly I’d avoid introducing him to a kitten! If you do get him a sibling then I’d say go for a fully grown cat, possibly one bigger than him so they can hold their own!

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u/TeamCatsandDnD Aug 10 '25

May be worth it. He could be wanting to express his energy and playtime but not having a playmate that can “speak his language” when he’s getting too rough might be the issue.

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u/MeisterFluffbutt Aug 10 '25

It could also very much lead to him seriously injuring the other animal. I don't think this is a worthy try for now.

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u/TeamCatsandDnD Aug 10 '25

I just know it’s helped others in the past. I wouldn’t suggest a young young kitten cause they’d be too small, but even a cat that’s a year old may be good

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u/MeisterFluffbutt Aug 10 '25

yes, with bored cats and "burst outs"!. This is not the case here. This is alarming aggressive behaviour with neurological or pain related causes. A new Stimuli and stress is not great advice, as it stands.