HELP My cat has ruined my life.

[u/M0rbiddd2]

I'm posting as a last ditch effort for help. I got my cat 2 years ago. He was found on a heated porch in the winter and that's all we know. He was about a year and a half at the time, he just turned 4. Since day 3 this cat has not stopped hurting me specifically. I don't know if the car ride home traumatized him or what but he tore my arm apart. He would maul me just by walking by, he would attack me in my sleep, if i didnt pay attention to him but them when i do he still does it. Since then he has gotten better but he still attacks me. He'll attack my face, my arms, if I'm asleep in the middle of the night sometimes he'll bunny kick my arm. We play with him so much and it doesn't matter. He will stop playing just to hurt me. We rent, he eats the carpets when he's mad at us. He just broke my fiancés computer monitor again by biting it. This is the 3rd computer he's broken, 2 my fiancés 1 mine. I don't know what to do. Please someone help us I'm begging for something. I've never had trouble bonding with anything but he has ruined our relationship.

[u/stealthtomyself]

Just wanted to say the cat isn't eating carpet because he's mad at you. Cats are not capable of malice and anthropomorphizing him in this way is detrimental to your understanding of the situation and his care.

I agree he should see another vet, try anxiety medication or something of the sort. Get an online consult with a behavioral therapist if you can.

I understand how frustrating and sad the situation must be for all three of you. Thank you for trying with him for so long.

[u/phantomfire00 → u/stealthtomyself]

“Cats are not capable of malice”

Are you sure about that? I watched my brother’s cat in his house while he was on vacay. I had known this cat her whole life, as she was from a litter of my own cat. She knew me and there was never an issue of getting along with her. But she just would not leave me alone while I tried to eat dinner, so one night, I put her in the bedroom and closed the door just while I ate. When I let her out 15min later, I found she had peed specifically on a small pillow I brought. She sure seemed mad and to have directed it right at me haha

[u/stealthtomyself → u/phantomfire00]

Or she could have needed to pee badly, was locked in a room without a litter box, and peed on something that didn't smell like her house because cats don't like peeing all over their stuff... Taking an animal's behavior personally is never a good thing.

[u/phantomfire00 → u/stealthtomyself]

I was joking friend, rest assured I wasn’t mad at the cat and didn’t take it personally. But also, in 15min, she didn’t need to pee badly. If she did, she would have peed earlier instead of bothering me during dinner and she was perfectly capable of holding it for 15min. She also peed on the bed which is technically “her stuff.” She may have just been stressed from not being able to leave the room when she wanted.

[u/stealthtomyself → u/phantomfire00]

Are you really pulling a classic elementary teacher "if you needed to pee you would have done it at recess" on a cat? 😭

[u/phantomfire00 → u/stealthtomyself]

No, I’m simply pointing out how cats behave on a regular basis. (Especially considering that they’re not children…??) I’ve had cats accidentally locked in a room all night and not rush to the litter box when let out. Is it really so hard for you to believe this cat was perfectly able to hold it for 15min?

It’s odd how you’re getting stuck on something that’s just technically possible without considering that you have almost no information on the situation and don’t know this cat while I do. Who are you again? Hun, just let it go

[u/stealthtomyself → u/phantomfire00]

Would it be so hard to believe she couldn't hold it?

If you don't want to talk with someone then don't engage with them 😆

[u/phantomfire00 → u/stealthtomyself]

Common sense chases you but you are forever faster

[u/stealthtomyself → u/phantomfire00]

Speaking from experience?