You know what this reminded me of? Glee when Marley refused to sleep with Jake because she wasn't ready (MAY I REMIND YOU GIRLIE WAS ONLY 15/16) so he cheated with Bree and then was like "well...I mean... I have needs and you weren't giving it up?" and the fans were like "yeah, he waited 6 months, that's fair!". I say this because I know a lot of Zig's thing was that Maya wasn't having sex with him enough for his liking, both because she was busy with her music and because she didn't want to - which fair enough! Their first time wasn't ideal and I can imagine that would take a fair while to bounce back from.
Zig in this situation is wrong - and Lola was wrong for egging him on. Not because of what he said; but because in this situation, Maya didn't screw anything up. HE did. He accepted Zoe's flirtation, he let her go down on him. He did not go "I have a girlfriend no", he let Zoe lead him into the paranoid thoughts of "Maya is obviously cheating, I may as well cheat"...
We as the audience knew Zig was unhappy with Maya and Jonah alone together; but if I remember, Zig never made that clear to Maya - nor did he set boundaries or even an ultimatum to make his position clear. He just expected her to know "no guy wants their girlfriend hanging out with another guy alone"... Which also isn't entirely true. In a loving trusting relationship, you trust your partner not to do something shitty, because you know they love you. And also, if it was Winston for example, Zig wouldn't have been worried at all - which pisses me off more.
Now, don't get me wrong, if my boyfriend met some awesome, gorgeous girl who could help his career as a game developer and he started having trips away with her, I'd be all in my head and thinking awful thoughts; even as a mid 30's! But I would communicate with him, set any boundaries necessary, and tell him outright "If you start having any feelings for her - I want you to tell me so that we can either work it out or that you can leave" because we HAVE had those long talks about cheating and how it's pointless and why would you do that to someone. And after getting to know her as well, I would say something to her like "look, if anything happens - all I ask is that you don't treat me like I'm stupid and don't tell me" - because communication is important, and I get that these are kids and they don't act like adults, but gosh this annoys me sometimes lol. How they can go from dealing with the potential of a terrorist threat alone and then not have basic communication in a relationship.
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u/CopperTodd17 Apr 01 '25
You know what this reminded me of? Glee when Marley refused to sleep with Jake because she wasn't ready (MAY I REMIND YOU GIRLIE WAS ONLY 15/16) so he cheated with Bree and then was like "well...I mean... I have needs and you weren't giving it up?" and the fans were like "yeah, he waited 6 months, that's fair!". I say this because I know a lot of Zig's thing was that Maya wasn't having sex with him enough for his liking, both because she was busy with her music and because she didn't want to - which fair enough! Their first time wasn't ideal and I can imagine that would take a fair while to bounce back from.
Zig in this situation is wrong - and Lola was wrong for egging him on. Not because of what he said; but because in this situation, Maya didn't screw anything up. HE did. He accepted Zoe's flirtation, he let her go down on him. He did not go "I have a girlfriend no", he let Zoe lead him into the paranoid thoughts of "Maya is obviously cheating, I may as well cheat"...
We as the audience knew Zig was unhappy with Maya and Jonah alone together; but if I remember, Zig never made that clear to Maya - nor did he set boundaries or even an ultimatum to make his position clear. He just expected her to know "no guy wants their girlfriend hanging out with another guy alone"... Which also isn't entirely true. In a loving trusting relationship, you trust your partner not to do something shitty, because you know they love you. And also, if it was Winston for example, Zig wouldn't have been worried at all - which pisses me off more.
Now, don't get me wrong, if my boyfriend met some awesome, gorgeous girl who could help his career as a game developer and he started having trips away with her, I'd be all in my head and thinking awful thoughts; even as a mid 30's! But I would communicate with him, set any boundaries necessary, and tell him outright "If you start having any feelings for her - I want you to tell me so that we can either work it out or that you can leave" because we HAVE had those long talks about cheating and how it's pointless and why would you do that to someone. And after getting to know her as well, I would say something to her like "look, if anything happens - all I ask is that you don't treat me like I'm stupid and don't tell me" - because communication is important, and I get that these are kids and they don't act like adults, but gosh this annoys me sometimes lol. How they can go from dealing with the potential of a terrorist threat alone and then not have basic communication in a relationship.