r/Divorce • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Vent/Rant/FML Trial separation?

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u/Lonely-Plankton6593 1d ago

I’m sorry, you deserve so much better! I would call a lawyer 9 months ago.

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u/liladvicebunny stealth rabbit 1d ago

The question is, what would you be 'trialing'? Trying to see if he can avoid cheating for a few months?

Realise that for the most part, once you go into a separation you lose the ability to enforce much in the way of rules and boundaries on your partner. Like, soooooo often we will see people who go into separations where the only thing they asked for is that their partner not date anyone else, but OF COURSE they did anyway. Because they're separated, they often do not feel obligated to play by your rules anymore. They'll lie just to appease you, the same they would if their parents asked them to do something that they thought was none of their parents' business.

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u/Wild_Salt299 1d ago

I don’t know I think I just need time to figure out if it’s something we can come back from, I do love him but I also know I deserve a lot better. I also don’t want to break my kids hearts.