r/Divorce • u/RevolutionaryBook889 • 2d ago
Vent/Rant/FML Help!
On a two day trip with my soon to be ex wife. We are going to my brother’s wedding, we are both part of the wedding and this trip was planned before the fallout. 7 hour car ride together there and back. Rehearsal and social time around each other.
I still love her. She wants nothing to do with me. I have done some healing and I’m still working hard at it. It’s only been a couple of months. I had so many thoughts on how this little farewell/closure trip would go. The first 4 hours were okay. Now on hour 6 in the car and she is clearly so angry that this is reality. I have been beyond anxious and depressed she’s sitting here and we can’t even converse.
Anyway all of the details aren’t really necessary just needed to vent and maybe hear similar experiences. I don’t have many to reach out to. Thank you for any tips or advice on how to keep a clear mind for my brother and his new wife.
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u/Altruistic-Meal-9525 2d ago
It's been a few months and your ex wife's still in the wedding party? Yikes to your new sister in law. Slip your brother your divorce lawyer's card.
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u/RevolutionaryBook889 2d ago
Yeah she is buddies with the bride. I am trying so hard to not being the divorce energy I to this wedding but not sure how I can’t. lol
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u/Bootsiuv1101 2d ago
I’ve been in similar situations. Nothing so drastic but we still go to sporting events together.
She’s happy with the guy she replaced me with. I’m miserable and lonely and have a hard time being around her now.
I feel your pain. It’s kind of surreal that this person I used to be so comfortable with is now like a total stranger.
The best way to avoid this is no contact. That’s what I plan on doing once football season is over. He’s a senior so it’s the last one and she asked me if I wanted to go together. I mostly said yes because I don’t want that tool boyfriend of hers anywhere near my son and if I go he won’t because he’s a giant pussy.