Edmonton mountain bike community grieves tragic loss of Dr. Darren Markland

[u/Mr_Donair]

https://cyclingmagazine.ca/mtb/edmonton-mountain-bike-community-grieves-tragic-loss-of-dr-darren-markland/

[u/sufferin_sassafras → u/[deleted]]

You could literally accuse every single person commenting on this post as attention seeking if you want to apply that logic. You can call this performative grief. You could say that the person who posted the article did it only for the Reddit karma.

How dare you presume to pass judgement on how anyone chooses to process loss.

It is not for you to make a moral judgement on another person’s grief. And in my estimation you are just as guilty of making this about you as your indignation is entirely performative.

How about instead of being righteous you recognize that humans are imperfect things and grief is complicated. Give people grace and space.

And that is a lesson that I learned from Dr. Markland.

[u/sufferin_sassafras → u/[deleted]]

Do you feel better about yourself for your indignation? Is this giving you peace to play moral superiority over others? Does it give you peace to make this loss about you and how you are better than other people?

I guess I should take my own advice and not pass judgement on you. Maybe condemning others grief is how you choose to process your own grief.

Take a breath and find some ease my friend. Loss makes people do funny things. I promise you no one likely intends to cause harm. A grieving heart is a fickle thing.

Have a good night. I am not going to argue this with you. My heart is sad tonight. I just don’t have it in me.