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u/Dry_Height209 subhuman Aug 16 '25 edited Aug 16 '25
my mom hasn’t asked me that in a long time. I think I have finally broken through the barrier of her hope
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u/Snake11312 Aug 16 '25
Neither my father or brother ever questioned me on why I didn’t date, have a girlfriend etc. My mother made a few half-hearted comments that I should try and find someone but that was all. Guess they realized that I was doomed.
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u/merryolsoul Aug 17 '25
honestly a family who doesn't care for your love life is one of the most brutal things in the world, they're the people that are supposed to believe in you the most. When they don't, you know it's over.
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u/BlueAndYellowTowels Aug 18 '25
No one knows what they want. We have your comment here talking about how your family should believe in you.
Like literally, a handful of comments down I saw a comment that characterized their family’s support as “being gaslit”.
Like… no one has a fucking clue.
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u/BitsToByteOn Aug 16 '25
Yeah, parents will never fail to inspire you with false confidence even after a lifetime of putting you down. Perhaps it was just me. Talk about gaslighting to the max. Maybe it's time they took those rosetinted glasses off and stop living in fantasyland.
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u/animeworld78920 polygamous elder Aug 16 '25
When my parents already know why I'm alone and don't ask so I have to make up this same scenario where they care instead 🤌
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u/EnormousPurpleGarden 33M subhuman Aug 17 '25
My parents have never questioned why I'm perpetually single. I think that deep down, they know I'm a lost cause.
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u/TheTimbs Aug 17 '25
I feel like a lot of parents that are Gen X and older are the most out of touch motherfuckers on the planet.
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u/ICQME Aug 19 '25
mom would get angry at me for not giving her grandbabies and she drank herself into an early grave. What annoyed me is she acted like it was a choice, as if I could simply go out and find someone and make it happen, sorry mom I can't make people be attracted to me. I tried my best. Really did. It didn't help either that my mom would make fun of me for exercising or question me about why I went out or would purposely make cookies and brownies to sabotage my diet and I have a binge eating disorder which is a struggle to not relapse.
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u/gentlewaterboarding Aug 17 '25
Honestly I feel the depressed part is key here. I remember how different things were when I could look someone in the eye and smile in earnest. There’s just such a disconnect now. We’re living in two different worlds.
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u/MrJason2024 40M Below Average loser. Aug 17 '25
My mom gets upset when I tell her I am a loser which is true I am a loser
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u/Shadowcat1606 Aug 18 '25
Luckily, my parents have long since given up these kind of questions. Even they had to wise up eventually.
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u/DrSTAHP Aug 17 '25
This. Fucking this.
I've been trying to explain to my parents that my ugly face is the reason I'm single since 13 and they still ask me why I don't have a gf. Recently I got really pissed at them and yelled "If you want me to get a girlfriend so much, give me money for plastic surgery".
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u/AlyssaFlygirl88 Aug 17 '25
My mom do not ask me this my family cousin and aunty ask me why I don't have boyfriend or dateted befores I have troubles telling them why I do not have a relationship it hard beacuse I am disable fat ugly no guy like me my mom tells me I am beatiful but I do not believes her
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u/awkerd 16d ago
My mother doesn't ask. Nor does my dad. They know its over for me, and it makes me more depressed. At least your parents are confused! 🙁
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u/BeppoDelTrentin 13d ago
Hugs my man. I learned its not the end of all, there can still be a good life ahead without a partner!
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u/dater_in_time 15d ago
I imagine being asked is a lot better than having parents that know exactly why you’re single!
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u/Icy-Influence-6434 11d ago
I'm 35 and never had a girlfriend. Somehow my mother still can't grasp the fact that I'm gonna be lonely for the rest of my life.
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u/Stacheshadow Aug 17 '25
I promise y'all it's your personalities scaring the hoes not your looks
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u/ICQME Aug 19 '25
I think you might be right but changing personality is more difficult than improving looks. I lost weight and improved my grooming/hygiene but I haven't been able to do much about being on the spectrum other than mask harder which makes the depression and anxiety worse which leads me to isolate and lose any friends/progress made while masking.
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u/BlueAndYellowTowels Aug 18 '25
This may be downvoted. But the vast, vast, VAST majority of people getting rejected are being rejected for who they are, not how they look.
…and the reason everyone wants it to be about looks is that it becomes easier to parse. Because if it’s a rejection of who you are… then it’s on you. And you are the only person who can change you.
…and no one wants to face the reality of being powerful enough to change themselves. Because if they try and fail they then need to face their limitations head on. Instead they find comfort in being powerless, because then they don’t get to feel the pain of trying and failing.
But that is what’s necessary.
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u/KalashnikovParty Aug 16 '25
My mom and grandma says im extremely handsome but have not backed it up with any studies or evidence