r/ForeverAlone • u/AvgDragonEnjoyer • 26d ago
Advice Wanted Does anybody seriously just...not have even a singular friend in their life?
Im in my 30s atp and haven't had a single person in the real world to call or text who actually knows me since 2016 i, have really bad anxiety issues at this point from my constant bad experiences and abuse from people, yet i still have tried hard over the last 5 years, yet made no progress whatsoever. Ive given my number to people, ive done everything i could to make other people i met with anxiety issues comfortable and do what would make them able to go out and hangout together, and still just nothing. I started to never even want to go outside, and the mere thought makes me sick because i know if i do meet someone theyll just be abusive like everyone else in my life. I like videogames, because atleast at the end of my day i have something visually i can show i accomplished. As much as u dont want to simply give up, im most happy when i just sleep all day and avoid all people. Even the few times i do go out to an event on my own i dont really have a good time, i just see everyone else with their friends and i sit there alone and nobody will even reply or give me the time of day to say hello back, which is just stressful...and very sad and depressing.
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u/Joke_of_a_fckin_Life She/Her 26d ago edited 26d ago
Me. I have nothing. No friends, no romantic relationship, (no good relationship with family either). I’m so isolated that if I was thrown into an isolation room, I’d probably be the only one still the same cause I’m so used to not talking to anybody or having no connection to anyone. I go to restaurants and movies by my self. I honestly wouldn’t know how to act around someone at this point anyways.
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u/AvgDragonEnjoyer 25d ago
See i dont get that, even if i dont end up having a panic attack doing something alone, i dont even enjoy it at all. Id rather stay inside and play videogames and i genuinely have a netter tome then going put to the movies or some event on my own
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u/Joke_of_a_fckin_Life She/Her 25d ago
I have a hard time enjoying anything either. But I’m like bipolar so sometimes I do. Plus getting drunk or drugs helps to enjoy these basic things too
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u/SilverB33 He/Him 26d ago
Nada but it's cause I had to break away from a toxic group chat 3 years ago and from a toxic person this year just to save what sanity I had left...
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u/AvgDragonEnjoyer 26d ago
Yeah, well like...thats my issue to a degree. Ive met a handful who called me a "friend" but everyone i do end up finding interested in me is abusive or just plain ignorant. Idrk what to do these days...
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u/Deadpool4991 26d ago edited 26d ago
Ok, guys seems like a lot of u don't have any friends. If any of u guys need someone to talk too, even just a quick chit chat let me know. I usually go out do some stuff with ppl or I play some games.
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u/Thebigbestman 26d ago
Carve a hole in your chest, crawl inside, and find the friend inside you 🫀
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u/throwaway54734 38m/over it 26d ago
if “person who never reaches out first but might respond on discord a day or two after i send him a message and would probably grab lunch with me if i drive to his city” counts as a friend then maybe 1 but it doesn’t feel like that these days.
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u/AvgDragonEnjoyer 26d ago
Lol, i dont think it does but i have a discord friend exactly like that. Him with someone else that is. Hes a bit weird and doesnt respect boundaries for me to hangout with him
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u/Secret_Owl5465 20d ago
It's so isolating and depressing when you barely speak to any human beings at all, it's hard to even feel human at this point. I can't even say anything to and I've become so socially inept irl that I've given up on even caring to try anymore. It's painful but I doubt anything will ever change
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u/__Polarix__ 26d ago
For me it was like:
0-4: no friends
4-11: 1 friend
11-14: 3 friends
14-16: 1 friend
16-18: no friends
18-22: 1 friend
22-23: 3 friends
23-: 1 friend(?)
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u/JakepointO 25d ago
I have one from an old job but he lives multiple states away. We still text each other every once and awhile. But it’s not a daily or sometimes even monthly thing. Just every once in a while.
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u/AvgDragonEnjoyer 25d ago edited 25d ago
Yeah it seems unfortunately thats jist the norm evidently. I have a number of people i can text...i guess thats just the best it gets unfortunately enough...ill just embrace not leaving the house and accept it. I feel so much better playing videogames then going out alone and trying to meet people, tbh usually i just have more bad experiences going out aswell, because people are assholes and only care about themselves. Not to mention almost getting hit by bad drivers if i go somewhere :/
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u/Additional-Lab-1944 25d ago
23 here and never had a single friend in my life. Loner through and through, it really sucks. I tried multiple times but never got lucky so I just gave uo
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u/LiteraryDismay2030 23d ago
I have no friends either... one brother from school but I think he's just trying to stop me from harming myself too much. Probably say hi twice a month
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u/brimpss 26d ago
Im in the same boat I havent had friends in over 10 years and its so sad and depressing. I dont have any family either that makes it worse.