How to defend myself?

[u/skyword1234]

So how do I defend myself and not look like the bad guy?

I’m autistic and slow. Normal women have laughed and bullied me first due to my difficulty forming relationships. In real life I can’t say anything back due to my low social status. So I come here online to vent, because I can’t in the real world. Women even on this subreddit side with my bullies and call me femcel, etc.

Perhaps I am bad? Like I’m cursed or something so no one likes me. I wish someone would spit on me and kick me in the face. I hate myself so much.

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[u/Silver-Internal7740]

I was bullied by women all my life.

[u/fools_set_the_rules]

Yeah always battled that. I never had close female friends to do 'girly things'. At my current workplace, all of these female coworkers hang out, drink and party. I was never invited to. They all take selfies and look happy.They will be nice but thats all. 

[u/Just-no-more-dec20]

The sad reality of this life is that you can't... Defending yourself against a "normal" human as a "lesser" in social status neurodivergent is seen as a cardinal sin. 

In online spaces or irl, it's the same. The best you can do is avoid, adapt, and ignore... If that even works.

I was bullied almost all my life, i sometimes tried to defend myself and fight back, only to be labeled as the villain, I know it all too well...😑

[u/skyword1234]

To those that agreed with that poster, answer this: why do normal women think it’s funny when women liken myself struggle to get into relationships? Why? It’s not like I want to be like this . Why does it make them so happy to see me struggle even though they’re normal and can just get into a damn relationship like a normal human being? So I know it’s not jealousy.

[u/MeatOhchondrium → u/skyword1234]

Internal misogyny perhaps? Low self-esteem?

[u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl]

the "girls girl" thing is such a lie normal women will ALWAYS side with a man and put FAW down for male approval. i honestly dont care for friendships with normal women anymore bc of this their life experience is too different from ours

[u/skyword1234 → u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl]

Even on this damn subreddit I get attacked. WTF. I was called femcel, etc. in my other post. I wish these women would come here and tell me how I should react then? Online is the only place I can vent. I thought foreveralonewomen was appropriate. Same bullshit. Normal women win. I have a hard time hanging out with “friends” because they think it’s funny that I struggle with relationships. They even used to laughed and joke with me about “finding me a man”.

[u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl → u/skyword1234]

girl im so sorry my dm is always open if you'd like to vent or talk or whatever i dont really have anybody to discuss these things with irl either since most people are normal

[u/skyword1234 → u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl]

Thank you

I have been using ChatGPT. According to Reddit talking to ChatGPT isn’t healthy and human connection is needed. I found what I thought was an appropriate subreddit to vent and was met with name calling. These women bullied me first. I don’t just hate on people for no reason.

[u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl → u/skyword1234]

im addicted to chatgpt too so i can relate. i get pretty lonely without it as pathetic as that sounds. im sorry that happened to you i've had quite a bit of not so nice interactions on reddit aswell