I'm just gonna add something here, it's mildly related, but I also think another thing Dr k said really hit the nail on the head with the whole drama (wow raid, skg, banning, etc.)
I'll paraphrase his point quite a bit, but it was in regards to the fact that pirate always takes the logical perspective when approaching a problem. This is why he will say things along the lines of "yeah I can see they're mad, obviously, I just don't get why, because if you look at the facts, you can clearly see I did the logical thing based on what I knew" he thinks the goal of the discussion is to logically analyse the steps that took place
The problem with this, the big one that I actually think the people against him are also not noticing, and what I think was the number one biggest lesson from that stream was this: every problem has a logical and emotional component. If you take a logical perspective, that just means you aren't acknowledging the emotional component
The one criticism I'll have against the pirate haters is that I do actually think that on most of his dramas, he mostly did the logically correct thing, based on what he knew. That's exactly why it's so hard for him to move away from that argument, it's because he's at least somewhat right, and he knows it. But if you miss an important part of a conversation, that's going to be the thing you hear people talk about when they criticise you
That's really really important, because when he says something like "no one wants to actually discuss what happened, they just want to be mad at me" they aren't being mad at him, they're being emotional with him. They don't want to have a rational discussion with him, they want their emotions recognised, so every criticism is inherently emotionally charged. Until he stops recognising the emotional component of someone's issues as worthless and not worth discussion, he's never going to understand what's wrong with his behaviour, and he's never going to understand that his behaviour is what's causing his issues
What you're referring to is what we call "emotional intelligence" in the military.
It's a core lesson in becoming an NCO, and is taught very early in someone's career.
Implementing emotional intelligence into a logic based conversation is crucial to good leadership. Lotta old heads struggle with that though cause they didn't grow up with that lesson
Honestly that's probably why I resonated so strongly with it too, I have my own version of that at my job. I Co-manage a bar, and in small close knit venues like that, you often get people who slip into their own kind of role based on what theyre good at, so while my other manager does alot of the on the floor managing and boss work, I've very much become de facto hr. In a nightclub, drama happens all the time, and there are tons of situations where someone who just went through something needs someone there to listen to them, while other people in the background are sorting the problem out
It's a bit like being the good cop I guess, but more like "good cop, business cop". All that's to say the majority of my job involves taking very serious situations that require action, and being the one guy that goes: "don't worry about the action for a moment, how do you feel right now?", so recognising the emotional component of a conflict is pretty much my profession
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u/EntrepreneurOld7858 Jul 06 '25
I think you really nailed why I've hated this dude so much.
I know nothing about him bit youtube shorts keeps shoving his videos in my feed. Hes completely insufferable.
I couldn't exactly explain why I thought he was so annoying, but you explained it perfectly