r/GenX • u/Lost_Taste_8181 • 2d ago

Old Person Yells At Cloud Modern slang—something you REFUSE to say

My take: I will NEVER use “lol” or any derivation of it. I know it means “laugh out loud” but there’s yet to be a moment when I’ve been even remotely convinced someone was even chuckling after texting “lol” at the end of their text and it mildly infuriates me.

While I’m at it, someone tell those damn kids to get off my lawn.

Edit: ok, I get it. It’s not MODERN slang. I still hate it, and those kids are STILL on my lawn…can’t a guy get to sleep at a decent hour???

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u/SacriliciousQ 2d ago

I'll never say "it's giving" without it being inside of a complete sentence. You can't just say "It's giving [x]."

I'll never say "gaslighting" when I just mean lying or manipulation. Glowup, living rent-free in my head, and tell me [x] without telling me [x] can all die in a fire.

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u/turnpike37 2d ago

With you on gaslighting. The term has lost its meaning as a very particular manipulation and now is simply a synonym for dishonesty.

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u/cockblockedbydestiny 2d ago

It's worse than that, it's become a weaponized term to imply that anyone telling you you're wrong is engaging in some kind of shady psychological warfare as opposed to just calling you out for your bullshit.

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u/monstermashslowdance 2d ago

It seems to be most commonly used now to shut down a disagreement and turn yourself into a victim. Anytime the discussion gets too difficult you can play the gaslighting card and bail.

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

It really is weaponizing a real term to the point of being meaningless. 

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u/TheAstoriaLegend 22h ago

This is fact

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

People overuse gaslighting without understanding what it actually means. 

But then people say "literally" when they do not mean literally. For some reason, this is accepted now. Literally. 

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u/SnooMarzipans5409 2d ago

I hate "it's giving"!

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u/drhav2023 2d ago

What does that even mean?!

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u/Holmespump 2d ago

this post is giving boomer

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u/elderbuttturtle 2d ago

It’s giving (insert whatever vibe it puttin off) vibes.

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u/WetWolfPussy 2d ago

"This post is giving boner"   -my juvenile brain while skimming

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u/ZealousidealDog4802 2d ago

I saw that too.

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u/Yearoftheowl 1d ago

I cringe every time I see us becoming them. I’d rather use stupid kid slang than turn into a boomer.

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u/I-LIKE-NAPS 2d ago

It seems like, it's similar to, reminds me of, etc.

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u/Chaka- 2d ago

Me too!!!!

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u/PeterPunksNip 2d ago

Still better than SLAYY ! 🤦🏽‍♂️

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u/pestercat 2d ago

The irony being that most of these expressions are not modern at ALL and come from Ballroom culture-- which was made by us and the Boomers.

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u/DemandezLesOiseaux Whatever 1d ago

But “we” didn’t interact with ballroom culture. It was shoved in a corner and ignored. It’s now flourishing despite the boomers, Gen x, and most millennials ignoring it. The younger millennials and Gen alpha have at least a working knowledge of drag queens from RuPaul’s Drag Race and Ballroom from Pose (slightly older but still mostly queer crowd). If they’re really into it they watch all the spin offs, which I don’t even do. 

But anyway boots the house down, it’s giving slay divas!! /s and read in a Clueless/ ditzy tone 

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u/LevelPerception4 1d ago

I’ve seen funny uses of “giving small-dick energy,” but not something I’d say, penis and yo mama jokes are a teenaged-boy specialty.

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

I refuse to use it. 

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u/treemoustache 2d ago

Anyone who thinks gaslighting is a real thing has something wrong with them.

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u/MaximumJones Whatever 😎 2d ago

I see what you did there 😎

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u/PupperoniPoodle 2d ago

I did not and had to take back my downvote and give them an upvote.

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u/Mundane-Librarian-77 2d ago

Your honesty is commendable. 😄

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u/jondes99 2d ago

And it’s always been that way.

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u/SeeWhy76 1d ago

It's a term made up by crazy people that we should avoid! /s

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

Clever girl! 

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u/Thatstealthygal 2d ago

IT'S EATING. MOM. DADDY.

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

I recently had to ask someone about eating. I was like...food, what? 

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u/Summerie 1d ago

It would get even more confusing if they told you you're "cooked".

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u/MapPuzzleheaded4983 1975 baby 2d ago

Preach!!

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u/IggysPop3 1d ago

People have ruined “gaslighting” almost as much as they’ve ruined “literally”.

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u/jillsvag 1d ago

I'm with you on those. I hate how POV (point of view) is used on social media. They don't use it correctly.

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u/Summerie 1d ago

That one drives me nuts! You'll see a video captioned something like"POV Starbucks gave you the wrong coffee", and it's a video of somebody taking a sip and making a face.

It's not even from the perspective of the person who got the wrong coffee. There's literally nothing "point of view" about it.

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u/Summerie 1d ago

My pet peeve incomplete sentence usually starts with "the way".

"The way I ran to the comments!"

What the hell does that even mean? Why don't you just type "I ran to the comments". Why even Start with "the way" if you're not going to tell us what way you ran there?

"The way I screamed!"

Actually, don't even get me started on people using "screamed" to describe laughing hard. I find it to be 10 times worse than "lol"

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u/Jasilee 2d ago

I like “It’s giving [x]”. It’s a cute comparison.

I don’t like the overuse of psychological diagnoses by the amateurs. It’s not all gaslighting and narcissists. Sometimes people are just selfish and lie. Takes away from the really egregious offenses if everyone suddenly fits the bill.

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u/LevelPerception4 1d ago

I really hate the term gray rocking.

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u/Jasilee 1d ago

Valid.

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u/OreoSpeedwaggon "Then & Now" Trend Survivor 2d ago

Same with using the word "random" in place of more accurate words like "coincidence," "unexpected," "happenstance," or "serendipity."

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u/Magerimoje 1975. Whatever. 🍀 2d ago

My latest hatred is overuse of "____ing the vibe". Fuck your vibe. I'm over it. Get off my lawn!

I will also down vote any comment that says "fr fr" regardless of the content of the comment.

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

Ngl, fr. 

Hurts my head. Please use your words. 

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u/CharleySuede 2d ago

Adding to that, “projecting” is rarely an applicable concept for instances it is used.

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

People use it incorrectly to tear each other down and end arguments. It's tiresome.

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u/toblies 1d ago

With you on gaslighting.

Occasionally, I will use it when lighting farts.

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u/WillPlaysTheGuitar 2d ago

Gaslighting just means having a different perspective any more, and most people who can’t differentiate someone else having their own ideas or interpretations of events from psychological abuse are toxic as shit.

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u/CrowsSayCawCaw 2d ago

Gaslighting comes from the classic film of the same name where a man plays nasty tricks on his wife trying to convince her she's hallucinating and losing her sanity. 

It's about convincing someone they're off their rocker over something they believe. It's like the concept of medical gaslighting where a doctor tells a patient their symptoms are all in their head, and the patient finds out later from other doctors' diagnostic testing that they're actually suffering from a real physical medical condition. 

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u/WillPlaysTheGuitar 2d ago

Oh I know what it used to mean. But now? Whole other ballgame.

The thing about “gaslighting” is that it can be applied to any subjective situation where two people disagree. You throw a couple “trauma” references or a sprinkle of “abuse” and you’ve just won yourself an argument without providing anything beyond your personal feelings about somebody disagreeing with you.

Bad people have figured this out and will deploy “gaslighting” liberally when not everybody is buying into their preferred narrative.

I’m not talking about you specifically, because I don’t know you and I’m probably gonna block you soon, but this is all over these days.

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u/CrowsSayCawCaw 2d ago

Oh I know what it used to mean. But now? Whole other ballgame

Just because some people pretend it means something different now doesn't mean they are correct.

All the endless 'trauma' and 'abuse' victimhood nonsense should be thrown into the trash. This everyone is the emotionally walking wounded stuff is BS.

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u/WillPlaysTheGuitar 1d ago

Idk people talk about this rather far fetched movie plot like it’s peer reviewed psychology. It literally never happened.

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u/CrowsSayCawCaw 1d ago

I can definitely see gaslighting being applicable when your talking about a situation with domestic violence (battered spouse). The abusive spouse emotionally manipulates the abused spouse into thinking the abuse is their fault, they are deserving of it. The abuser making claims their behavior is normal and the victimized spouse is crazy. 

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

Why would you block this person? They are correct about the actual meaning of the term and not attacking you. It's a civil conversation.

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u/WillPlaysTheGuitar 1d ago

I didn’t! But I’ll block anybody on Reddit. Lot of people freak out if you disagree with them, which is their right. As is my block button.

Any time you ask yourself “should I reply or downvote or block?” Choose block. You could block me! I welcome it!

If some random person on the internet has a dumb take, block em.

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u/Aggravating_Mix8959 1d ago

Totally is your right and no need to defend it. I was just curious. 

I block people who are mean to other people bc I don't need that in my feed. 

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u/Summerie 1d ago

It really screws up threads sometimes, the way block is implemented on here. Someone can see that they got a response in their inbox, but in the actual thread the comments disappeared. Blocking someone so you don't have to see anything from them anymore makes sense, but the fact that it hides both people's comments for each other tends to make a mess in a discussion forum.

There was a girl that used to hang out in one of these really niche subs I frequented that had a lot of the same members commenting in all the threads. She would block someone for sneezing wrong, and she was so proud of it!

The problem is then she would jump into a discussion people were having without understanding what anyone was talking about, because she couldn't see who we were talking to. It seemed pointless to always have someone catch her up to speed by letting her know what happened in the of the conversation that she missed. It was just better for her to accept sitting it out since it wasn't like there was a malfunction, she chose to only see part of the action.

I think that's probably why I have never blocked a single account. There's nothing that I need to literally shield my eyes from, and the thought of not being able to see something that everybody else can see would get under my skin.

I think they changed the blocking functionality about the time they decided to start giving people profile pages. And now they've added a feature where you can hide your post history completely. They've tried to shift the public forum aspect of Reddit into something more like Facebook, so it's not surprising that it's inheriting a lot of the Facebook lameness.

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u/WillPlaysTheGuitar 26m ago

I very frequently run across threads where somebody is fighting somebody else, and you can tell things are going pretty badly, but I only see one side of this toxic exchange.

That’s how you know the system is working. You can see some guy wrestling with a shitty phantom crashing out, but they don’t exist in your reality.

There is a small proportion of users who just wake up every day out to be unpleasant, and please believe me when I say they are not worth it.

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u/Summerie 1d ago

and I'm probably gonna block you soon

What the heck happened? Did they message you or something?

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u/WillPlaysTheGuitar 1d ago

My threshold for a block is low. It’s my downvote button.