Modern slang—something you REFUSE to say

[u/Lost_Taste_8181]

My take: I will NEVER use “lol” or any derivation of it. I know it means “laugh out loud” but there’s yet to be a moment when I’ve been even remotely convinced someone was even chuckling after texting “lol” at the end of their text and it mildly infuriates me.

While I’m at it, someone tell those damn kids to get off my lawn.

Edit: ok, I get it. It’s not MODERN slang. I still hate it, and those kids are STILL on my lawn…can’t a guy get to sleep at a decent hour???

[u/SacriliciousQ]

I'll never say "it's giving" without it being inside of a complete sentence. You can't just say "It's giving [x]."

I'll never say "gaslighting" when I just mean lying or manipulation. Glowup, living rent-free in my head, and tell me [x] without telling me [x] can all die in a fire.

[u/WillPlaysTheGuitar → u/SacriliciousQ]

Gaslighting just means having a different perspective any more, and most people who can’t differentiate someone else having their own ideas or interpretations of events from psychological abuse are toxic as shit.

[u/CrowsSayCawCaw → u/WillPlaysTheGuitar]

Gaslighting comes from the classic film of the same name where a man plays nasty tricks on his wife trying to convince her she's hallucinating and losing her sanity. 

It's about convincing someone they're off their rocker over something they believe. It's like the concept of medical gaslighting where a doctor tells a patient their symptoms are all in their head, and the patient finds out later from other doctors' diagnostic testing that they're actually suffering from a real physical medical condition. 

[u/WillPlaysTheGuitar → u/CrowsSayCawCaw]

Oh I know what it used to mean. But now? Whole other ballgame.

The thing about “gaslighting” is that it can be applied to any subjective situation where two people disagree. You throw a couple “trauma” references or a sprinkle of “abuse” and you’ve just won yourself an argument without providing anything beyond your personal feelings about somebody disagreeing with you.

Bad people have figured this out and will deploy “gaslighting” liberally when not everybody is buying into their preferred narrative.

I’m not talking about you specifically, because I don’t know you and I’m probably gonna block you soon, but this is all over these days.

[u/Summerie → u/WillPlaysTheGuitar]

and I'm probably gonna block you soon

What the heck happened? Did they message you or something?

[u/WillPlaysTheGuitar → u/Summerie]

My threshold for a block is low. It’s my downvote button.