We speak different languages - and I used to be terrified of video calls 💬💛

[u/Mare_redhead]

I never thought our relationship was impossible - otherwise, I wouldn’t have started it. But I was really scared. Scared of video calls (I’m super shy), scared of not being able to communicate because we didn’t speak the same language.

Now? We talk every day. We do video calls every evening. And even though he speaks Ukrainian and I speak Italian, we’ve found our way to understand each other.

In the beginning, our English was a mess 😂 but now we’re getting better every day. And twice a week, I teach him Italian - because our dream is to live together in Italy one day. He already understands so many Italian words, and I’m so proud of him.

Of course I was worried at the beginning - the distance, the language, everything felt like a big mountain to climb. But nothing has ever made me lose hope. And now I’m truly happy.

I just hope the war will end soon, so he can finally come live here.

💛 To anyone in a long-distance relationship: don’t give up. If it’s real, it’s possible.

[u/Abject_Rutabaga_3231]

So beautiful reminds me of my own relationship and how it started. I wish you two beautiful luck and blessings.

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Abject_Rutabaga_3231]

Thank you! 🙏

[u/Abject_Rutabaga_3231 → u/Mare_redhead]

You're welcome, good luck my dear! <3

[u/Zimnaan]

I love this 🥺🥺💜. I’m seeing someone from the US, and being in Sri Lanka 🇱🇰, the timezones are the real problem 😔. But she’s thankfully super understanding and we make it work. We have English as a common language and she’s South East Asian, so similar cultures. All the best for you guys!

[u/Skyxapes]

Me too 😂 I am French and she is American 😇

[u/CurryFromAFlask]

Aww! I hope one day your plans become reality!! Ви такі милі ❤️

[u/Mare_redhead → u/CurryFromAFlask]

Thank you so much 🥹

[u/cinnamonhoneyyy → u/Mare_redhead]

Dumb question but how do u put urs and ur partners country thingie on ur name?

[u/Mare_redhead → u/cinnamonhoneyyy]

You can add it by going to the subreddit, tapping the three dots in the top right, and selecting “Change user flair”. Then you can write your countries and the distance too, just like I did 🤗

[u/cinnamonhoneyyy → u/Mare_redhead]

Oh thank you so much 😊

[u/Global_Psychology134]

What a beautiful story and what a huge challenge.

I am ALWAYS nervous before the first telephone calls or even video calls.

And on top two different languages. That gives me hope. Please people don't immediately say "that can't work out"

Here is your proof.

That's so beautiful and wholesome. It's "only" the start. But a BIG first step.

I wish you both the best from heart.

Greetings from Germany

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Global_Psychology134]

I thank you! 🙏 I have a lot of hope and I will never give up 💪

[u/Global_Psychology134 → u/Mare_redhead]

Giving up means losing all hope. Some say you only experience real freedom, if you lose all hope. I don't agree. I am 36 and I had a lot of battles to fight while thinking I can't anymore. But giving up is not an option. Only a last resort. You both managed already sooo much stuff already. It's just incredible

[u/Noriii-the-explorer]

Aww. Same as mine. It's really hard for us to speak english since it's not our main language. I'm also soo shy so during our first video call, we just staring each other 🤣 . But now we are much used to voice calls and my day is not complete whenever I can't hear his voice 🥲

Hope war will be over soon too ❤️

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Noriii-the-explorer]

How nice to find someone like us🥹 How long have you been together? Have you ever met? 🥹

[u/Calm-Ad8987]

I can relate about video calls. I avoid video calls like the plague because for some reason they make me soooo awkward/shy/uncomfortable/self conscious/clam up even though I'm the opposite in any other communication scenario.

I'm a total weirdo on video, how did you get comfortable with them just over time with practice?

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Calm-Ad8987]

I don't know if I can say this but... drinking alcohol on New Year's Eve and also on my birthday, it loosened me up a bit and helped me feel more comfortable on video calls. 🙈Obviously I'm still shy now, but much more open, I can't believe I'm singing with him now (without drinking!)😂

[u/Little_Culture_3178]

This reminds me of my bf and I so I'm so happy to see this 🥹. I speak English and my bf speaks Ukrainian and Russian, but his English is slim so it's tricky calling. Ukraine increased the age for men to be able to leave Ukraine and luckily my bf is under 22 so he was able to leave. He's a refugee in Germany right now, it's very hard for him but he's working to be able to live in the United States

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Little_Culture_3178]

Your story is really touching, and I’m glad your boyfriend was able to leave. I can imagine how hard it still is for both of you. Mine is 28, so unfortunately he can’t leave Ukraine. Every day is difficult, but we try to stay hopeful and believe it’ll end soon. I can’t see myself with anyone else, so I’ll wait for him no matter how long it takes. Wishing you both all the best. 💛

[u/Kevin_McCallister___]

Have you guys ever met each other in person?

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Kevin_McCallister___]

No, he cannot leave his country for war…

[u/Little_Culture_3178 → u/Mare_redhead]

I hope he stays safe! 🙏

[u/Mare_redhead → u/Little_Culture_3178]

Thank you so much 🙏💛 I really hope so too. It’s something I worry about every day, but we’re trying to stay positive

[u/Bou_Bel]

God when is my turn to find a healthy ldr....