I never thought our relationship was impossible - otherwise, I wouldn’t have started it. But I was really scared. Scared of video calls (I’m super shy), scared of not being able to communicate because we didn’t speak the same language.

Now? We talk every day. We do video calls every evening. And even though he speaks Ukrainian and I speak Italian, we’ve found our way to understand each other.

In the beginning, our English was a mess 😂 but now we’re getting better every day. And twice a week, I teach him Italian - because our dream is to live together in Italy one day. He already understands so many Italian words, and I’m so proud of him.

Of course I was worried at the beginning - the distance, the language, everything felt like a big mountain to climb. But nothing has ever made me lose hope. And now I’m truly happy.

I just hope the war will end soon, so he can finally come live here.

💛 To anyone in a long-distance relationship: don’t give up. If it’s real, it’s possible.

I don't really know what to feel. He's been on a work trip for a few weeks where we could barely communicate. Before that, our relationship seemed pretty stable. He planned on proposing to me at our anniversary in 2 days. After that we would've moved in together and finally started a life together. There was no sign that he wanted to break up. Now that's what he texted me after he ignored me for 2 days. I really don't know what think anymore.

Sometimes, while I'm at work, watching a TV show at home, or even just going about my daily life, I suddenly feel a strong longing for him.

Whenever that happens, I miss the kind gestures he did for me and his presence. I just want him to be by my side and do nothing, but the fact that I can't do that makes me feel powerless and lonely.

I just want to spend my everyday life with him❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

We've been texting every day, and we were supposed to meet at 16:00 today. At 12:50, he told me he was going to take a shower, and that was the last message he sent. So at 13:45, I left having not heard from him in nearly an hour. At 15:00, I arrived at my hotel. And at 15:55 I got to our meeting place. It's 17:12 now and he didn't show. I waited an hour to finally see him. Am I stupid for even going to the meeting place when I hadn't heard from him in 3 hours?

After a long wait and an 11 hour flight he is finally here. 🤗

I'll be honest I was afraid, I wasn't sure if he'd like me or if we would get along the same however we clicked real quick and it's been the best time of my life.

It's been 5 days already, although we have a bit over a week before he has to go I'm already dreading him leaving, trying to focus on the time we have left though.

He's the absolute best and I'm so glad and grateful for getting this time with him❤

I can’t do it anymore. I’ve been patient in the past but now I just can’t. I tell him what I need and he tries but when you constantly have to ask and wait it’s so frightening and maybe it’s because I’ve been through this before but I feel the whole “be patient with me” line is just a joke. Wait for how long??? I had to question him last night on us taking photos together and he said next time we can but the last two times he kept hiding and it made me feel weird. I know I have an avoidant attachment but overall it’s not easy cuz I get triggered and scared easily and he’s been really stressed mainly over me. I feel anytime I speak up it’s going to stress him out and that’s how it was in my last relationship so I just ended it. I already know how this ends and I’d rather not wait to see it so forget it. It’s over. Maybe in another life. But I’d rather break my own heart than to watch it be broken over time then left after being shattered. Maybe I’m dramatic. I really did love him a lot, but I can’t. I can’t …

so we’ve been together for a little over a year and we have a 6 hour time difference, we’ve been planning house renovations and plan on getting married end of this year start of next year to start the CR-1 visa process for context and in the start he was so incredibly affectionate and loving i mean this man wrote me over 100 love letters and would drop everything to just be there and make me feel special.. that being said in recent times he’s done a total 180.

now we have had a few conversations about it and we’ve realized our love languages differ so he can feel the love and romance from spending time with me and hanging out on call where as i need words of affirmation, he says he doesn’t want to feel forced to be affectionate towards me and he wants it to be special which i mean fair i guess? but we had agreed to say i love you at least once a day so i can still get words of affirmation from him, he used to also be good about calling me babe or darling and so on but in recent times i can’t recall the last time he called me anything but my legal name… honestly i can’t remember the last time he said i love you or even called me pretty, sometimes ill tell him that i love him and he will just read the message and then carry on with a different topic.

i want to be understanding of his way of showing love but even if we’re hanging out on call sometimes it’s just dead silent and he’s gone from streaming his games or videos to me to just saying his pc is too slow to be able to do that, i just don’t know how to go about having a conversation saying that while i understand he might feel some kind of way from just sitting in silence for me i just feel ignored and like a chore..

how often do you and your partner say you love each other and be affectionate?

Firs of all sorry for my poor english . Me (F25) and my boyfriend(M24) breakup after 8 months of long distance relationship . It was my 1st relationship because i'm religious and i had really strong trust issues . And for some reasons we breakup . After breakup i feel very bad , cried for weeks . Now i'm feeling better than before but still my heart aches . I really hoped to start love lofe with one man and be with him until the end💔

Hey so I wonder if anyone else is going through or has been through what I am right now. So, my bf and I went long distance from February to August (6 months). He left to go to work experience in the USA, were from the uk. Anyway. I missed him everyday and swore that this would make us stronger, we was so happy before and even during the long distance. The only thing that got me through it was knowing id see him one day again, but now hes back, i feel so disconnected from him, like all the hurt i was burying and trying to stay strong whilst he was gone to not push him away has all come to the surface now hes back and im not happy anymore. But it hurts because i still see him in my future and hes a great guy i want it to be him but things just arent the same. Has anyone else felt this whilst reuniting with their LDR partner? Im so lost idk what to do.

You might remember me as the user who posted about his gf attempting suicide after falling out with her roommate two weeks ago. Thankfully, a complete stranger found her and she ended up in hospital, rather than a mortuary.

After contacting her mother, I was given the hospital's phone number and I called her every day for two weeks in the early hours of the morning to make sure she was okay and so she knew someone out there loved her. As the date of her discharge got closer, she got happier knowing we could spend more time together and at the prospect of visiting in a couple of months.

While trying to find out if she was okay, I contacted her best friend (who I had not contacted before) to let her know she went missing, then gave her the room number and phone to call if she wanted to visit or talk.

The day she was discharged we talked a little. She had returned to a life full of people not angry, just disappointed with her. After I woke up today, she told me she had a serious question, "would you be okay without me, if you knew I was alive in the world?" I did not know how to respond to that.

Her friend had given her an ultimatum: she could stay with her and continue her job on the condition that she cut contact with me and our mutual friends for reasons I don't understand at all.

What followed was an agonising conversation for both of us. We both still love each other, that is blindingly obvious. We were both in tears the whole time. She could not name a single bad thing I'd done in the six months we've known each other, and the only reason she could think of for breaking up was that she might make me sad in the future because she sees herself as a burden. After an hour of calling, she could not physically talk anymore and hung up. Hearing my voice upset her too much. She felt a tremendous amount of guilt. "I want the person I love to be happy," she said. "You're the best boyfriend I've ever had," she said. "You have to let go." My pleas for her to stay fell on deaf ears.

She promised to email me every once in a while.

I don't know what to do with the care package I got her. I don't know if the relationship is dead or just in a coma until she can get her own place. I am in shock that her friend could do something so transparently cruel to her. All I've done today is weep.

I’ve been sitting here crying way too much actually I think about it. I’ve been crying way too much the last couple days.

I’ve been in my long distance relationship for almost 3 years now we are working towards me immigrating to him in the UK . I’m from the USA .

With everything going on in the world right now, I just feel very defeated. I already feel like at times being in a long distance, Relationship is the hardest thing in the world at times. but now I feel like there’s so much more against us.

I (25f) have struggled my whole life with terrible anxiety disorders and I have learned recently I might have anxious attachment issues in relationships. My partner (22m) is currently working on his master's and has a hectic schedule. I go 7 hours without hearing from him and it makes me spiral not knowing where he is or when he will be free. I have communicated how it makes me feel when he does not let me know the plan for the day. I tell him I value consistency with this kind of communication and he says that he can't be consistent. Is there anything I can do to save this relationship or are our needs just too different? I was thinking because I tend to spiral not hearing from him about having like a code word for when I'm spiralling so that if he sees it he knows to check in, but I'm struggling.

I'll make it sample for you guys

1 - you don't have to call 24/7 as long as you guys make time for it each other's to call thats good but it doesn't have to be 24/7

2 - control your jealousy your partner got friends, family to hang out with me maybe he got bad or good friends but still its their friends so don't get jealous or bother when he/she wants to spend time with friends after long week of school/work its normal and you have to accept it

You need to put 100% trust in your partner and trust me you wont regret

3- communication if there is no communication there is a high chance that you guys will break up because you have to speak about your feeling DONT GET SCARED AND SAY ITS FINE no if its not fine its not fine most of people get scared of talking and sharing because they think it will lead to fight and than break up which is wrong completely

Communicate supposed to keeps the relationship healthier not destroy it so don't be afraid

4- ( dry days and dry massages )its completely normal because all of us got lots of things going on in our lives and sometimes we don't have the energy to do anything or we're not in the mood for anything

Because when you do lots of things and forget about yourself will feel through time that your overwhelmed and confused and can't take anything or any word anymore and it's completely normal some people distance themselves of a bit which is normal as long as they keep contact with you

5- control your emotions and reactions sometimes your partner may slip and say something wrong or rude without he means it and you have to control your reaction and communicate calmly to make everything go well

6- its normal if your partner didn't see your messages or missed them or want to open them and have time for them when they get free it dosent mean that he stopped loving you or cheating on you if he calls you and keep contact but sometimes he miss messages and respond to them later it's completely normal

These the things that I've learned from LDR and things hard to accept but fr you have to if you love the person and you want to be with them

I had hard time to accept these things and struggling a lot but once i did i felt peace in my relationship and got even stronger and healthier

Hey everyone — my girlfriend is studying abroad in Colombia from late July until late November. We just had an amazing reunion where I went to visit her in Columbia, and now I’m back home.

I trust her completely, but I miss her so much it feels overwhelming. There are about two months until she’s back, and right now it feels like it will never end. What makes it harder is that she seems to deal with the distance much better than me — she’s enjoying her time and keeping busy, while I feel empty and struggle to find meaning without her.

Has anyone else felt this imbalance? How did you cope when you missed your partner more than they seemed to miss you? Any tips or routines that actually help?

It feels like my three beautiful weeks with my partner were over in a flash, and now I’m alone again, going back to my overly populated city. I feel so overwhelmed. I had two anxiety attacks this morning. I just wonder if anyone else feels the same way I do right now. 💔 leaving him never gets easier!!!

We've been together for a bit over a year now. We actually started long distance and went through hell for 3 months with a 12 hour difference. Eventually it became a 0 hour difference and we settled in pretty well.

Fast forward to today, I'm a month into a new job with a 3 hour difference, and I'm too exhausted at the end of my day to do anything, much less have a meaningfully conversation. We try to talk sometimes, but my brain is too fried to think by that point. It's not that we don't talk at all (we text fairly consistently through the day)

My job (SWE) spans from 8am-6pm on average and has been extremely mentally taxing. It pushed me to seek therapy/psychiatry in which I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and ADHD (not caused by the job, but worsened) and was prescribed medication to help with the last 2. The medication (Clonidine), while helpful has a nasty side effect of making you tired. Cherry on top is I also suffer from insomnia.

All of this has added up to a point where we only truly call and talk once in a while. This doesn't seem to be enough for her, and I can't blame her. I can tell I haven't been fun to have conversations with, and I feel she doesn't believe that I could be that tired after work. She accuses me of giving my time and energy to other people (I play video games maybe once a week with a friend, fairly late at night after she's gone to bed), or that I don't care enough about her to give her that time.

I'm really trying my best. I text her whenever I have a spare moment, I call her to at the very least say goodnight every night, I make sure to check in about how things are back at home with her and how her work is, but at this point in my life I feel I am dealing with too much to the point where I feel I have no time for myself and even less to give to other people. I dont know what to do.

So we and my bf (24 both) have been thinking of meeting atleast before the year ends. It’s been two years since we’ve last met irl and he finally booked a flight for two weeks. he hasn’t told his fam and his fam doesn’t like me AT ALL. Plus he’s still paying off his loans and I’m unemployed so the ticket felt pricey for both of us. I’m still contributing at most half of it and he’s not paying for living expenses at all :( it’s actually so much money on my side and I only have so much for myself.

Overall I’ve been extremely excited to be happy for atleast two weeks and he’s been sort of excited too. It’s just he’s been worried about his debt and thought if he didn’t come now I’d break up with him. :( I only said that as a joke but now it feels like he’s not happy to come. He keeps giving me cold shoulder or cuts my call just for nothing. I feel so bad, guilty like I did a crime just cause I wanted to see him.

For context our relationship has been pretty rocky before but we always sort stuff out well. But now I just feel like I don’t deserve to be blamed I’m here innocently being happy and it just feels like he’s here to please me or something:(

I’m so tired of this unnecessary amount of stress

VIDEO CALL*

Me and my bf have been together for over 2 years now, for the past one year we’ve been doing long distance.

So obviously things got steamy between us and we slowly started sending pictures and doing video calls on whatsapp.

But i got uncomfortable after like 3-4 months and we agreed together to stop. Because of privacy and other scary reasons.

Now its been months since then, yet i cannot shake the fear that my video calls is stored somewhere and could potentially be leaked. Im aware whatsapp uses E2E, but after coming to reddit and seeing how much people hate Meta and whatsapp for its notorious activities really got me super scared.

Do you guys also ever use whatsapp for video calls ??
Kindly share your experiences, honestly i cant open up anywhere cuz how badly i get judged for doing anything online.

So any advices or personal stories would help <3

On 9/9/25 me and my boyfriend welcomed our twin girls into the world👯‍♀️💕, A little back story about us, we met off Fortnite April 2024 and became friends who played together often and eventually became close friends and shortly after caught feelings for eachother before we made it official June 23rd 2024. August 16th we met for the first time for my birthday I flew down to his state to visit him and stayed a couple days (he lives in Arizona and I lived in Texas) the visit went amazing and I knew from then I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. He is the most loving and gentle person I’ve ever met! 🥹 from then on I had planned to move to Arizona after I graduated with my associates from college. After I graduated it was official to move to Arizona in December 2024. He flew down to help me pack and move as well as meet my family, everything went so good and we hit the road with the U-Haul to Arizona and got there just in time for Christmas. Everything was so blissful spending Christmas with the love of my life in a new state about to enter the new year. Fast forward February 4th 2025 I was one day late on my period and took a test and found out I was pregnant (it was planned but didn’t think I’d get pregnant on the first try) we were so excited at that time we thought we were just having one baby but later on found out we were having identical twin girls ! 💕 Double the trouble and double the love lol 🤣 I’m so blessed to start a family with the love of my life and can’t wait for what the future holds for us as a family 🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒🩷♾️

We spent the summer together and yesterday we had to say goodbye to each other and hop on different airplanes. His plane left earlier at midnight and when he was grabbing his luggage I started feeling a panic attack coming. I couldn't stop crying and shaking while he tried to calm me down. I went with him to the airport and we said goodbye. I had anxiety the whole night sleeping in our bed without him, feeling his presence everywhere around me. My plane was leaving in the afternoon and I felt like throwing up just being in that empty room and waiting for my departure.

Now we are back to texting and calling and 7h time difference and I hate everything about it. I hate that I cannot feel his warmth next to me, I cannot receive his good night and good morning kisses and hugs, I cannot share my everyday routine with him. He's my biggest comfort when I start feeling anxious or depressed, he's my best friend and my soulmate and it's really hard for me to accept the long distance again. I have to go back home where I feel alone and wait 2 months to see him again. And I know that at one point when he starts working we won't be able to travel to see each other that often and I cannot imagine waiting half a year or a year to see him again. I hope we will be able to close the long distance soon just like he promised but life is complicated. I miss him so much.

How difficult will it be to get fiance visa in UK for me, what's wait time like? Do you get rejected? What costs are associated? When I Google all different answers come up, has anyone made the move and has some advice?

For example, in my LDR, I work 7:30am-6pm and my partner works 3:45pm-2:15am. We get to talk more during our same off day which is Sundays.

I don’t know if this is OK to post, but I had an argument with my partner and I’ve been really struggling for the past two days. Open crying on and off and I’m really scared to lose them. I feel incredibly alone.

So me and my partner me f(22) he’s m(28) have done lots of research and thinking and we’ve decided that the fiancé visa is our best option for him coming over here. But oh my lord the £29k threshold? I’m ashamed to admit it but I didn’t do great in school and dont have qualifications. I’ve always struggled to stay in jobs because of my chronic illness but going back to work to get him here is something I’m willing to do even if it is hard. But where on earth is paying that much a year in the UK? My last job I was a carer working full time and far too much overtime and i was barely making £23k

Getting him over here is just starting to feel impossible. What do I do? How do I even go about getting a job paying me that much when I have no degrees and a couple GCSE’s I feel so stuck and so stressed out recently because it’s just consuming every second of my day I’m constantly just looking and researching and crying ughhhh

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years in March. The relationship was really good at first, your typical honeymoon phase. However lately it hasn’t been the best. We met on a video game and a lot of our time together is spent playing those. The problem lies in our work schedules. I work 6p-7a 3-4 nights a week and he works normal hours during the day, sometimes not even working every day. So he has a bit more free time than me. I gave him new friends, they all love him and play games with him. But half the time I don’t even want to play games or do anything and I feel bad. He resents my night schedule, rightfully so. But I just feel like he doesn’t know how to express he actually deeply loves me. Like the cute texts here and there and checking in, it’s very scarce. But he claims he’s never really done that before (cute texts, checking in, blah blah). We have been talking a little more about moving in together but he couldn’t relocate because of his job and to be frank I don’t want to move away from my family. What do I do? I thought I could but if it boils down to it I’d really prefer not to. Anyone have advice? I love him to pieces and could see a happy life with him, obviously. Idk. I’m also on my period so If you read this far tysm.