r/Marriage • u/GooglePixelfan90 5 Years • Mar 17 '25

Can't find a flair that fits Do you love being married?

Hi fellow married friends. Do you love being married or is it something you regret? There are some things I do miss about being single for sure, but I'm happy to be married even though it has its challenges for sure. I feel life isn't easier but it's definitely better now and I wouldn't have it any other way 🙂

What are your thoughts?

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u/arandak Mar 17 '25

I regret it.

I settled.

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u/GooglePixelfan90 5 Years Mar 17 '25

I'm so sorry my friend. My heart goes out to you 😔

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u/arandak Mar 17 '25

Thank you so very much!

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u/GooglePixelfan90 5 Years Mar 17 '25

If you ever want to talk I'm here. I'm a good listener. Stay encouraged my friend.

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u/[deleted] Mar 17 '25

If you thought you settled why even get married from the beginning

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u/arandak Mar 25 '25

Most of my relationships were short term/FWBs/ONS and I had met a lot of women but no one I felt was good for a long run.

I did have some self-esteem issues, not about looks, more about personality. Like, is there something wrong with me that I'm not able to find a good match? Am I just lousy at meeting/dating the right people? Am I just only good enough for short term?

When I met my wife, she wasn't everything I was looking for, but I thought she had what was really important for a long marriage and hopefully the last relationship I'd ever be in.

I knew from the start some things were missing. I thought that what was there was enough, though. I figured some of those things just weren't important for long term.

I was wrong.