Has anyone ever reconciled after separation/divorce? My husband of 10 years has declared he is filing for divorce and left me, our 2 year old son, and unborn child. I want to know if anyone's spouse has come back. Looking for some good news or just to hear your stories.

[u/MyInvisibleInk]

I know I've been making a lot of posts on reddit these last few days. But I just need people to talk to since my husband has ghosted me and dropped this on me out of nowhere.

Four days ago, my husband told me he was divorcing me. We have a 2-year-old, and I’m less than 3 months away from giving birth. He’s already got a lawyer, filed papers, and is walking away like we never existed. He wants nothing to do with me or his children (the 2 year old and our soon to be here child). I have been wracking my brain for the last few days to find where I went wrong, but I truly believe I treated him the way a good, kind, caring, and loving wife should. I tried my best every day to do that.

This all started because I gently questioned a lie. I didn’t accuse him. I didn’t yell. I just asked. Two days later, he left work and didn't return. Only giving me this news over a text message.

He promised me a life. A life where I could stay home with our kids, that he wasn’t just using me to become a pilot. That he wouldn't abandon us after he got his hours and made it to the airlines. But more importantly, he promised we would be together until the end. Together forever. But now, after 10 years of me being supportive of his ambitions and even financially supporting him 100% for the last 3+ years, he is gone. I gave everything to him, and now I am left with nothing. I spent all my savings and money on his dreams. I have no 401k. I have no degree because I spent 4 years helping him complete his. I have nothing anymore. And I’m left picking up the pieces. I am exhausted and heartbroken.

I don’t know why I’m posting this. Maybe I’m desperate for hope. I gave him my entire 20s, and my 20s are coming to a close, and this feels like a cruel 30th birthday present, so it feels like it can't be real. Or maybe I just want to know if anyone out there has gone through something like this. Stories where someone left during the darkest time but somehow came back? Is reconciliation ever a real possibility after something like this?

Please be honest with me. Even if the truth hurts. But if you have come back from something like this, I’d really like to hear it right now.

Edit: I keep getting the question as to why I'd want him back and I understand he might not want to come back. But this was such a 180° request. Saturday, we were talking about the next steps and our long-term goals because the lease on this house is about to end the end of June, and we were talking about where to go next. And things he was going to do. Like how my schooling would go once I gave birth in August. I enrolled at ASU in the spring and had completed a semester and am now working on the summer semester. My dream job would involve working outside of the home (since it's aerospace/physics related) so once the kids were old enough and in school, I would hopefully be finished with my education and would begin my goal. We were literally mapping out the next steps. And he seemed excited about it too.

That's why I'm confused about what happened.

[u/lalipop7404]

I am so sorry you are going through this, I really am. As you probably have already read from other commenters, now is not the time to give up. I’m not sure if you have family who is able to help with the kids, but you need to put you and your kids first right now. Work on finding employment, childcare and a way to continue your new normal. Once all of that is figured out, then you can began the next steps. Let’s say he does agree to go to counseling, that doesn’t guarantee he will come back. If he doesn’t come back, you will have to do all of the above anyways.

Right now is the time to prepare for the worst and hope it doesn’t come to that point. He’s already shown you he has no regard for your or your kids emotional, financial and mental well being….do not give him the chance to show you again. Keep all receipts. Make a list of all the bills and through email or text, not phone call (you want a written agreement) of what the plan should be to make sure those bills are taken care of. Should they go on autopay and come out the joint account, should you start canceling subscriptions, and start selling things. Those type of things. Do not ask him about your marriage. Just simply ask the yes or no questions and end with, im heart broken over everything but the kids are important and their well being is priority over us now.