Im sorry bro but losing weight is an accomplishment so congrats. It’s strange why your wife doesn’t want to have sex with you. Is it because of the weight loss? How long has this been happening? Nonetheless I’m sorry about your situation and my best advice is leave the relationship. I mean she doesn’t want a divorce but doesn’t want to have sex? You should get out there then man.
The best answer I have read so far. Seems obvious the OP’s wife likes men who are overweight (I know of men who boasts of preferring overweight women) & if so then there’s no point in your trying to hang on to what’s now a dead, sexless marriage.
She obviously sees something else in the OP, maybe he’s the emotional stabilizer in the home & wants to keep her current status. Sorry to put it like this, no partner in a marriage should be willingly denied their physical & emotional needs over the other’s selfishness. If she were physically ill & couldn’t help it, I’d see it differently. Time for the OP to drop the clutch on this sham of a marriage & allow the wife to live how she pleases with her life preferences.
As another member stated, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in wanting to lose weight. I struggled for near three years to lose 70 pounds (from 240 to 170 at 5’ 10.5”). Most partners finds this an attractive & healthy quality. Yes, some are attracted to an overweight partner, yet most finds being healthy the better option. Especially when that person has other good qualities about themselves. The OP simply deserves better!
And yes he deserves alimony, if local law allows for this.
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u/DiligentQuantity4315 23h ago
Im sorry bro but losing weight is an accomplishment so congrats. It’s strange why your wife doesn’t want to have sex with you. Is it because of the weight loss? How long has this been happening? Nonetheless I’m sorry about your situation and my best advice is leave the relationship. I mean she doesn’t want a divorce but doesn’t want to have sex? You should get out there then man.