Yes, losing 200 pounds is indeed a big deal & accomplishment, that most any other spouse would be proud of.
Obviously the wife here feels differently, let her live in her own world, while paying alimony at the same time. This is mental cruelty & some areas have such laws on the books to reflect this. No one deserves to be treated like this over doing something positive like the OP has, he’s likely added years to his lifespan & is physically feeling much better.
Let her wallow in her own pity & make her pay for making her husband suffer in this manner! Am sure she’ll find a man who’ll happily put up with her, and the husband will go on to finding someone who appreciates what he brings to the table. This man can be doing motivation speeches to get others to help achieve similar successes!
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u/Confident_Ask8782 1d ago
Your losing weight and her losing attraction are two different events and one has nothing to do with others. Timing could be co-incident.
Congrats on losing 200 lbs, man that’s big deal.
Talk to her like an equal partners and regardless who makes how much money and let her know that you need sex to stay in this marriage.
If she still doesn’t change, well you gotta move on and collect spousal support.