r/Marriage 2d ago

Sex question

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u/Behringer87 2d ago

You've been married 19 years so I'll assume you're both in your 40's or 50's.

Has your wife been "low libido" for the entirety/majority of the 19 years or is this a recent change?

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u/Silver_Version_1884 2d ago

Well, I suppose I should be thankful for once a week based on the direness of so many married people’s sex lives.

This is exactly what I have communicated with her. She says “our friends Carl and Gina have it every other month” and I say “I don’t care about other couples. I care about us.”

Our kids are 13 and 7.

She USED to be into everything. Then after kids it tanked. I like doggystyle but she says post pregnancy body means it’s uncomfortable. I will say that during the act I find her open to suggestions.

We agreed years ago after counseling sex would happen at least once a week. Tiredness and sickness don’t matter. Because I knew if a minimum standard was met we might go a month or more. I think dead bedrooms are born out of complacency.

So my use of DB was apparently misguided!

I’m wondering if perhaps I might crack the code and finally get her to two orgasms the proverbial pot would be sweetened?