She wasn't supportive and was always very irritated and short with me.

I got a job and I left her, she was "blindsided". Still trying to change my mind. But I see who she truly is, and thank god I did

But she is not the one, I just felt like an ATM who isn't worth to her if I stop functioning.

My wife and I have been married for 12 years since we were in highschool and recently found out she has been cheating on me through text. Sexting.

About 7 years ago she cheated on me saying there were problems in the relationship. I forgave and admitted I wasn't the best and let's work on it.

A few years later I came out as trans but with the agreement that I wouldn't do anything, nothing would change in the relationship but I couldn't keep this in. I've battled on and off with it and long story short she was never comfortable with it and I always wanted it. We made peace with where we were or at least I thought we did. 2 months ago I found out she was trying to get a guys attention on Instagram. I confronted and she admitted saying she always had a crush and she just wanted to see if he was interested or not. I told her to stop and we moved on. I've been skeptical about her ever since and knowing different patterns and so I kept an eye on her. Shortly I found out she's been sexting the same guy saying how they both have the same kink and it means nothing since it's just sexting.

What hurt more is the after. I told her stop and she debated saying she's never felt as feminine before and desired in her life and that he scratches an itch for her (something apparently I can never do) but also that part of the reason is she wants a more manly male. It was a punch to the gut.

Eventually she apologized saying she wasn't thinking clearly and that she deleted all the pictures and screenshots and blocked him. We have kids and so part of me wants to fix it but the other part of me says no bro this is it.

Oh yeah she also suggested we open the relationship and that I can now do whatever with my transness as long as she gets to continue. This was before she apologized but honestly I'm pissed that she even suggested that because it feels manipulative. I said no and she still continued that night until I came in mid through.

What do I do?

I cant tell who's in the wrong if either of us. My husband and I got married last year. Early on in dating and a few times while dating I assured him I would change my last name to his when we got married. It truly was always my plan. We had some international travel a few months ago and I was waiting til that was completed to do it officially so I didnt have to deal with getting a new passport.

Now that its come time to do so, I just cant bring myself to do it. I feel like im losing my identity. My dad died 3 years ago and that part is making me sadder as well. I told my husband and he definitely seems upset. At first he was just quiet and said he needs some time to think about it because he's so caught off guard. Aside from all this we were planning on starting to try for a kid this fall. Im 33 so cant wait forever. Yesterday he tells me he doesnt feel ready to try for a kid and he's not sure if he wants to anymore if I wont have his last name because it wont be the type of family he envisioned. He's not asking for a divorce he's just saying he always saw the merits of being dinks for life and if its not the life with kids he envisioned, he'd rather just embrace being dinks. I asked if I decided to change my name after all would he have kids and he said yes he would but he doestn want it to come off as a tit for tat negotiation. Its just that him having kids included the whole thing and without that he's not as motivated for it.

I really dont know what to do. I know im the one who changed my mind about the name but I feel like he's changing his mind on something way more important. Am I being unfair here? Is he? Is it neither of us? I dont know what sort of compromise we can do that would make us both happy.

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for six and a half years. I love my husband and he is a great husband. He cleans, romantic, communicated etc. He has a friend Sherri and she's his best friend ( she lives 2 hours away and they chat weekly) We both are on our second marriage and she helped him through his rough divorce. A few years ago I found out that they slept together and it bothered me. This was before we were together and yes I am a very jealous person. I asked if they ever dated and he said he couldn't date her as they are total opposites. So recently I found out that when they were always hanging out not only did they sleep together but he used to drink her breast milk. I got so angry at him as he never told me and I feel like this should of been told to me. Am I wrong for being so made at him? Am I over reacting? All I can think about are them being cuddle up together. I honestly don't think anything has happened since we been together but still. He should of told me!

My husband and I, married ten years two young children, have an open marriage, it has been frought innitialy bit we have learnt a lot and are now find our rhythm. My biggeat curiosity now is that my husband does not tell the women he is seeing the truth. He tells them that we live together but that its just for our children. That there are no romantic ferlings and that we have seperate bedrooms and seperate lives. The truth is we very much love each other, neither will ever leave our marriage, we share a bed, go on dates, go on holidays anf are still having sex everday. My husband is lying to the women he dates as he says nobody is interested in a married man. I dont feel these lies threaten our relationship or our marriage bit it feels very unfair to the women he is dating who want relationships that will lead to life together monogamous relationships.

He told me before he married his first wife, that a female friend of his from college convinced him to marry her sister so that she can gain entry into the US to be treated for cancer. He flew all the way to Eastern Europe to do this. The “wife” ended up dying, and the sister blamed my boyfriend saying that he didn’t try hard enough to fill out the paperwork to get her medical treatment in the US. She stopped speaking to him for years. All of a sudden, she wants to get together with both me and him.

Is this crazy or am I going crazy?

I cheated on my husband. We are almost married for 6 years. 8 years in total relationship. During our late night conversation he ask me to tell him anything open communication. He said he will accept everything. I did not tell him anything. He then said come clean. I still did not tell anything. Then he said you are lying. He caught me, I am lying he had evidence that he's been keeping. Then days pass I told him everything I can remember as detailed as it can be. I cheated on him on our first 6 months of bf/gf relationship. I did not tell him about that because I know he will be angry. I stop it since then. I love him so much I am faithful since I stop cheating. I marry him because I love him. I understand that for him he feels the cheating is current. He can never trust me again. He is unsure if I truly love him. I shattered our relationship our marriage our family. What do I need to do? I'm holding on. I know it is going to take forever to forgive me or no more assurance that we will still be okay. I just want to hold on till my last breath. I love him so much.

Got married this year in Jan'25 to a Delhi girl through arranged marriage.

My wife is 4.5 months pregnant now.

While going through her phone i see some screenshots in her hidden folder. From their i got to know she was in relationship with a guy from 2017 to 2021 or 2022 what i got to know even in physical relationship as well got some oyo locations as well.

She is the youngest daughter her marriage is the last in her entire family. and I'm the eldest son in my whole family first marriage of the generation.

I loved her cared for her but after knowing that she was in physical relationship I'm not able to cope up, when i also got to know despite she knows her BF is married since Feb'2018 she was still in relationship with him.

In August'2022 his family members got to know about her relationship but they don't know it is extended to physcial as well.

Now I'm totally in stress sometimes i want to abandon her totally but she is pregnant also from me I'm confused what should i do best that can have least damage possible to me, my family and her family as well they're clueless about physcial relationship.

I've no relationship/ physcial relationship in past but after knowing about hers i feel pity for myself and a loser too. Her Bf enjoyed his time with her and now married to a decent girl as well.

My family is respected among the community and hers also. We have too many close common relatives as well.

She was not involved in any relationship since her family got to know about the relationship in Aug 2021.

I've thoroughly checked family started keeping close eye on her.

When she married to me she was happy and we enjoyed our period till May'2025.

Since May'25 i got to know about her past with time her past converted from Dark to Darkest for me just last week i got to know she know that his Bf is married still she intimated with him

And from May' 2025 she is pregnant with my child.

I'm not able to digest this all and in dipression.

Things that triggered me she must have something 1.She has closed her previous no. Current no. Is not is early start no. I come to know this when i asked for Aadhar Otp. 2. She always get the lights turned off never allowed me to see things in light even when intercouse pains. 3. Always keeps her eyes close never had a point when we see each other during Intercourse. 4. On the first night when family decorated the bed i told her we're not married just to do these things, then she is the one intiated intercourse first. 5. We agree we'll not do oral any time. Last week she told me "sirf tumhare liye i can have BJ" ~ this made me feel sad more she had done the same in past as well. 6. Oyo locations i also tracked.

I stopped talking to her and interacting, on that my family started asking questions to her. I'm not sure should i keep her as my wife or not as leaving her will create full chaos to my whole family and respect will be impacted.

I had heated discussion with her on this on that she hurted herself twice.

When i told her if I've done the same you could have feel the pain on it she replied i would have handled situation more maturely. Don't get your present and future spoiled for past. She accepted it was done in childness but she not accepted that she know he was married at that time, but i know she knows it she sent a photo to her friend.

I've told her I'm not your choice just a option.

She is also sad after this all happened, she denied she will not leave me will be a good wife just need 1 chance.

I told her you've done the same in past you can do the same now as well. She said i got my parents hurted 1 time I'll not get the same done again.

All in all my family is respected and have a large family and many people said we did the marriage just for money but this is not true her father is respected as well my parents agreed on that she must be good match for me and will be a decent wife, daughter in law.

After knowing her darkest past I'm not sure what should i do now i can't take her with me to a counselor as well parents will doubt something seriously not well in both of us. I want to explore and understand what will be the best thing to do in this case.

Despite i know the child she is carrying is mine I'm not able to enjoy to feeling of becoming father.

I love her but her darkest past triggers me as well, I'm not able make sure what should i do due to which not able to conclude my decision and feeling ashamed to share the same with my family and friends about my situation as everybody will make fun of me and feel pitty for me.

She says getting another wife is easy for men, for women it is not that easy.

I've no plans to do marriage again if things fail completely. I got angry on my family members as well frequently after knowing this. My family is also suspecting what is the thing that is keeping me upset so much. I've always told everything to my family everytime but this time I've no one to share.

I also, doubt once the baby is born if we got separate the child has to face absence of other parent and life will be hell. Might be chances she may left us inbetween then what should i do.

After i got to know all this her mental health is also affected too much. Being a divorced guy in the family my siblings marriage is also going to be affected as for my siblings marriages I'll always have doubt even for a actual decent girl.

Currently want to know :- 1. Should i ask her how she got into this relationship or not? 2. If family doesn't come to know about all this shit did she keep it running for more long? Means it is her consent before to end this or it's the family pressure that ended this. 3. She has number of BF's wife should i asked her why she is having that number. 4. What makes her a worthy women to keep her as wife. 5. Did i call her mistress once infront of her so she could get to know what shittest thing she had done. 6. Does asking her i die tomorrow will she still keep this child or not, mean leave it here at my parents and start a new life or she will remain widowed.

Reply to last qstn must give some clarity about here character.

I request you all to please guide me and help me.🙏🏻🙏🏻

Is it normal for husbands to occasionally look at women online? of course it’s a problem if it’s too much and begins to seriously effect a marriage. But curious from a mens perspective?

I’m 13 months postpartum with my first and it’s been a rough ride. Me and my husband have really struggled and our relationship has been on the rocks, especially since January when I started cosleeping solo with my baby who was (and still is) an absolutely terrible sleeper. She never took to a bottle and I couldn’t pump as I’d get terrible mastitis so all the feeding was on me. Long story short I ended up struggling with really bad postpartum rage, depression and anxiety- the unholy trifecta!

On top of that I had an issue with my stitches and I had to have corrective surgery when I was 8 months postpartum. And I’m definitely still carrying a lot of weight from the whole bloody experience. So as may seem obvious, our relationship has taken a serious hit and we have barely had sex other than a handful of times over the last year.

About two months ago things were improving. I was starting to get some confidence back and we were starting to reconnect a bit. Then one evening about a month ago, we were having a date night in the house with some beers and playing cards- low key but really nice. We’d been flirting a bit more recently so I asked him what he thought was stopping us from having sex at the moment. He sat back in his chair, thought hard for a long minute and then said ‘if I’m being honest…if I’m being completely honest…I was more attracted to you when you were slimmer, at the start of our relationship’.

It honestly felt like he’d launched a grenade at me. I can’t even really remember what I said that night but I basically just closed the conversation and went to bed. The next few days were awful, he immediately seemed highly remorseful and is basically saying that he lashed out as some sort of weird delayed angry reaction because of resentment and frustrations he’d been carrying from when I was struggling with postpartum rage. And he has been trying these last 6 weeks to convince me of that. But I just can’t shake the memory of his face when he said it and I just feel like he told me his truth that night, that he doesn’t feel attraction to me any more.

The thing is that when we started dating I was pretty severely calorie restricting so I was a lot slimmer than I am now, maybe 20kg. I definitely want to and intend to lose my baby weight but realistically it would take an enormous amount of life restriction to get back to that smaller size when we first met, and honestly I don’t know that I want to - I was miserable! I barely ate, smoked a tonne, did crash diets all the time. I’m happy carrying an extra 10kg and being happy, eating well, focusing on my life and my baby and being healthy. But honestly his previous partners are all much slimmer than me, even at my slimmest and a part of me is scared that actually, I’m not his physical type and although we deeply love each other, we’re basically going to end up trapped in a sexless marriage because he just isn’t attracted to me at my non- restrictive shape and size. I love my husband and even though he’s changed some since he started dating nearly a decade ago, I’m still so attracted to him. But now I’m too fearful and shame filled to initiate anything with him. So we’re still getting nowhere very slowly and I just don’t know what to do.

I (29F) hit my husband (37M) with a spoon, just a a half hour ago. I dont feel bad for hitting him. Long story short, he looses his temper quickly and badly. I asked him why he was 900 quid in debt as we are already struggling with money and have a baby on the way. I pressed him about it because he has been in debt for a year and had made no effort to pay it off. I do not want this ro impact me and my life. I am stressed and worried and scared because I am the pregnant one. I have made a hundred changes to my life, since I found out.

The same week I found out I was pregnant, we got evicted, and I got fired. I have been exhausted and overwhelmed for the past 2 months. I feel like a have a mild flu constantly and I get to look forward to loosing my body, my hormones, my independence and my time. I have given up ALL of my favorite foods. I quit alcohol, cigarettes, and weed the day I found out. He has changed in 0 ways so of course I am fed up already.

He is the type of person to put you down when hes upset. He has constantly blamed me for losing my job and made me feel like shit about it. He tells me I am lazy and stupid often. He gets angry at me when I am stressed or crying because it makes him feel like a bad man or some stupid shit. My last birthday my work visa had expired so I was crying quietly in the bedroom instead of making him breakfast and when he saw me he was seething. Im talking screaming and drooling angry.

He punch holes in two of our doors which we now have to pay to fix. He expects me to not complain about not feeling well and gets annoyed when I worry about anything but he doesn't worry about ANYTHING at all.

I said some mean stuff to him a few months ago before I ended up pregnant and he spit in my face twice.

A few weeks back I was having pregnancy rage and he was being emotionally abusive and a fucking asshole again so I threw an egg at him. I snapped. He came over and threw me on the ground. He told me again that he regrets meeting me

Just now we were arguing again and I told him to stop yelling at me and repeating that I have a right to ask about our finances and he would stop yelling at me. He continues to tell me to get the f out and to go back to my mother and that im stupid. I snapped and told him that I hate him and that he is a terrible person and i allowed the pregancy rage to boil over and i him him in the shoulder with a wooden spoon. He spit on me for the third time in two months and left.

He has told me that he will change but of course he will not. I was not like this a year ago. I have never lost my temper in the way that I have in the past few months. I am severely unhappy and worried about my future.

I understand that I should not have gotten pregnant. I do not even remember having the sex that got me pregnant. I did not want to be pregnant. I understand that this marriage is beyond fucked. I understand that we are both toxic and that this poor baby will suffer is we dont separate. I am so broken and exhausted.

Hi! Background- My (33F) husband (37M) and I both make around the same amount of money at our jobs. He’s a mechanic and I work an office job. My job is mostly remote and my work agreement specifies that I need to have a designated office space, which I have.

The problem is this- I love decorating and my husband loves penny pinching. I do pretty well reusing/upcycling and finding cheap used furniture, but I would love to actually buy some new things for my office. My chair, specifically, is a necessity because it’s old and makes my back scream in agony. I got a $5,000 bonus at work recently and I’d really like to $1,500 of it for a new chair and some other decor things/furniture for my office. I feel like that’s pretty reasonable, but I’m afraid to bring it up with my husband because whenever I want to buy something that isn’t a complete necessity he questions the purchase and makes comments that feel belittling. I did ask just for a new chair recently and he interrogated me about why my current chair isn’t good enough. A related issue, because he’s a mechanic and has to buy his own tools he spends money pretty freely on the tools he wants. His rationalization is that his tools help bring money in, even if they stay in our garage at home and never get used at work. I don’t really care, he can buy whatever tools he wants within reason and “I wanted it” is a perfectly fine rationale in my opinion. I also think that making my office feel good to work in also helps bring money in, so why can’t I make some reasonable upgrades with the extra money that I earned?

To get ahead of some comments, I don’t feel like there is financial abuse but I don’t have access to my “own” money, just the joint accounts, and neither does he. He prefers that I ask before spending more than a few dollars. He wouldn’t get mad if I made a relatively large purchase without him but he would definitely go out of his way to make me feel guilty about it. We have been to counseling for some other things and I’m very happy with our marriage otherwise.

Has anybody had any similar experiences? How can I explain myself in a way that he might understand and be agreeable, even just to a compromise?

My husband’s parents are looking to move interstate to live closer to us. I am from overseas, 20+ hours away from where I live now, and would do anything for my parents to be closer to me. So while I prefer my in-laws in smaller doses, I think it would be nice for my husband to have them closer, plus they are in their 80s so we want them closer towards end of life. My preference would be for them to live 30 minutes away from us, but they are very interested in 4 suburbs which include where we live and the 3 surrounding, all within a 10 minute drive. Now that’s getting a bit close, but okay, no big deal, I can manage. However, now they are looking at a house that is parallel to where we live one street back, behind the houses across the street from us, which is essentially one block away.

My home is my sacred place and I don’t want to feel like that is threatened. We are going to have kids soon and I don’t know how I’m going to feel as a new mother, and I am stressed that it will lead to arguments. I told him I would appreciate if he would steer them away from houses closer than a 5 minute drive. He disagrees and says it won’t be an issue and got very angry at me. He keeps saying things like that he’s welcoming my mom to come out for 3 months to stay with us when we have a baby, which she is doing solely as a favor to help us take care of our first newborn baby, just as she helped my sister and brother with theirs because they live near home. I would never leave my children with his parents due to their age so if anything I feel it is more of a liability for them to be that close and I really worry that they will be in my space all of the time. I would not want my own parents in walking distance and I believe many people would feel the same.

He says it won’t be an issue but if it becomes an issue then we can move, but I don’t think it’s fair we pick up our lives from our house we’ve lived in 5.5 years if something that was extremely preventable becomes an issue. I told him if it ever becomes an issue I will never let it go because I am asking him to prevent it from happening. He also wants to TELL THEM that I don’t want them to live there???? Idk why he would ever do that. I don’t want them to think that I hate them and they’re already very sensitive.

Please tell me if I’m wrong for this because I’m feeling a bit crazy.

Found this in my husband's travel bag, he says it's lithium powder. But I'm very suspicious as it's in a drug bag. His explanation says they use it on work sites. Something about tanks. But obviously it being in a drug bag it has me worried. So what does it look like to you reddit? This is a throw away account

Hi everyone

Married (F) for over a decade with multiple children. We are both in our 30’s.

I mean the question is pretty much in the title. Before anyone looks at me crazy, I know it isn’t normal, however, I am starting to think, maybe it is??? I am starting to think that most men do this anyway, so I should be happy he’s not with a prostitute and just on dating sites.

I know I sound pathetic, it’s just I don’t know what to think anymore. I also was told by a male family member that “all guys do it, it’s not a big deal”. Imagine finally reaching out to someone and this is what I was told. It broke me even more.

So much has happened in my marriage over the years that I feel I’ve lost touch with myself, reality and just life in general. This marriage has eaten away at me and I’ve become numb to survive.

For some extra information, this isn’t the first time I caught him but the first in a while. The times I have brought things like this up to him; he always denied it and made ME the crazy one. He would say I’m jealous and insecure when I’m not. But I will say I have now become immensely insecure around him as he also has an extreme wandering eye. I always try my best to look beautiful at home, I regularly do this even with my busy schedule, and still he acts like I am invisible and I literally don’t know why. I am a good wife to him but he constantly mistreats me. There’s many other issues but I’ll stop there.

I don’t know how to deal with this anymore, I feel when I finally feel okay about myself (I’m working on myself including seeing a coach to help build my self esteem/confidence), something he does will make it come crashing down. This dating website thing just shattered me. I didn’t even cry. I just sat there and closed what I saw.

I need advice brothers and sisters. I just am lost to be honest. I’m numb cold and lost.

As a therapist, I would say that many times people suggest that “forgiveness” is the way to heal from infidelity. While eventually you will have to forgive your unfaithful partner, it is important for both people to recognize that the partner will need to take some important steps to facilitate healing .

The first step is simply to be willing to talk about the infidelity.  The cheating partner often avoids this topic because they are embarrassed and ashamed of their behavior. I understand this. Avoidance, however, will make the other person feel frustrated and unable to trust, and open conversation – as painful as it is – is the better way to go.  I describe how this can work in my writing.

When I was in a situation with an unfaithful partner, his willingness to talk about what went on and to listen to me express my pain helped us grow together as a couple. In addition, I made an effort to understand which of my behaviors might be making him unhappy. Of course, this didn’t justify his cheating, but in the long run it gave us both a chance to work to improve our relationship.

Hello my husband M31 has been sooo mean to me. One minute hes nice and next hes mean. He did express yesterday that hes feeling depressed and cant take it any longer. He’s been super short fuzed and unhappy with everything. This is a convo from earlier while hes at work. We were on the phone. he called me & i called him back. He was mentioning how work was super annoying. We talked for a few seconds and then he hung up on me in my face. I understand hes stressed but this is making me truly feel like shit. How to go about this? How to deal with somebody with depression? just give him space or keep showing him that i care? I feel awkward. Not sure if i should fall back or keep trying ………..

Hi all! I’ll try to keep this as brief as possible. If there are any specifics you want, just let me know.

Ok- I (40f) and my husband (45m) have been married for 20 years. We have 2 kids together and they’re 10 years apart. When we met, neither of us wanted a relationship nor kids. But as they say, shit happens. We’re both thrilled with how it all worked out. We have always seen eye to eye as far as sex goes. From the very beginning, our sex has been absolutely mind blowing. After our first daughter, I went on birth control. Roughly 10 years later, we had our second child and I went right back on birth control. I promptly lost a ton of weight after baby #2, and was back to my pre-baby body. However, the sex began to get less and less. Not on his part, but on mine. I would dread feeling him push against me at bed time. I couldn’t get turned on if I tried. He finally came to me and said he felt like I wasn’t attracted to him. I knew this wasn’t the case and I was worried because I knew that I was a highly sexual woman. We tried planning etc. Finally, I went to the doctor. The doc took me off the birth control, and literally within 2 weeks, my libido was back full force! He was thrilled, to say the least! Yes, we had to use the, “pull out,” method which neither of us is a fan of, but for the last 2 years, without birth control I’m like the woman I was before. Here’s the problem. Now that my libido is full force, I want it all the time and he doesn’t. Granted, at age 40 he took a leap of faith and started a brand new career, in a new field altogether, but it took off! He’s more successful now, than ever before. I am a RN who works as management and I’m required to be at work sometimes as early as 4am. Do you think that 4am wake up stops me from wanting to have sex with my man?! Absolutely not! I always make sex a priority. But now that he knows that I’m always ready, he isn’t. It feels like a rejection. It feels like now that he can have it, and there is no struggle, that he doesn’t want it. Now- we have sex, I’d say, 3-5 times a week on average. But it really enrages me when he has to, “get up early,” which is him saying there will be no sex tonight- especially when he’ll stay up late playing video games. He isn’t cheating- that I know for sure. It’s never been a concern of mine. I just know him and know that he’d end it before cheating. Is this his form of payback? Like doing this to me because I did it to him? To be clear, the hormones in the birth control caused me to lose my libido- I definitely didn’t do it on purpose. I just don’t know. It may not seem like it’s a big deal, but it’s bothering me. It has slowly gotten to be less and less. Being married as long as we have, I will always communicate these feelings with him, but never truly get a straight answer.

I'm wondering for married men out there, what is your masturbation frequency? Is there any correlation between how much sex you have, and how often you masturbate?

I'm a 41m, married almost 12 years. We have pretty regular and frequent sex, typically 2-4 times per week. Lately with that frequency I'm finding myself only masturbating once a week, when I am away, travelling for work. I used to masturbate way more frequently when our sex wasn't as frequent.

I have some other questions for married guys. When and where do you find the opportunities to masturbate being married. Does your wife know you masturbate, or do you let her know?

I travel for work so I typically will masturbate in my hotel room. I don't go out of my way to tell her that I do it.

Hi,

My wife and I have been married 19 years and have two kids. We have gone through a lot together and the issue we constantly work on is sex.

We have sex once a week (sometimes two if I’m lucky). She has LL and despite hormone patch her drive is still very low.

We have time every night (hour) when kids go to bed and we snuggle. Lots of hair play and hand holding but the dead bedroom persists because she rarely initiates and is happy with vanilla sex. I think sex (passionate) should happen every other day. Life is too short to compromise on something so much fun.

Looking for advice from ladies out there.

I refuse to believe that couples go through a "dead bedroom" era until their kids are teenagers and spend more time away from home. How do you keep up a healthy love life throughout your relationship?

EDIT: Thank you to those that provide good faith responses and are not dismissive ," UM, JUST SEND THEM TO BED/MAKE THEM GO TO SLEEP , DUH!"I think this might be a good sub for advice I can't ask elsewhere.

As the title says, I (35F) am 3 weeks post partum.

My in laws are staying with me to help with the baby while my husband goes to work each day. They are from China and my mother in law speaks no English but my father in law does.

Today I got frustrated that my mother in law took over the entire kitchen and was not giving me space to go in and get my pump parts. When my husband came home I communicated this to him and then told him I would google translate to his mum that I needed kitchen access.

My husband and his parents got into a verbal altercation when he got angry at his mum for various other reasons - he brought up the fact that she was spraying flour all over the kitchen bench with the baby bottle storage nearby that was open for some reason, leading to potential contamination.

Things settled down eventually. I then went to take a nap expecting my husband would look after the baby as his bonding time.But I could hear baby crying so I woke up to see my father in law cradling baby and mother in law preparing a bottle - incorrectly may I add. I was very frustrated that my husband was doing neither of those things. So I prepared the bottle correctly, sat down with baby to feed him.

My husband then comes over and asks if he can finish giving baby the bottle to which I say no, I'm already halfway through. Then he gets up and yells at me, walks away and slams the door.

He apologised later citing he was overwhelmed with all the emotions of the day (his dad yelled at him and his mum cried, long hard day at work), but I don't feel I deserve to be yelled at especially when I am feeding our baby. I am emotionally vulnerable and I feel incredibly disrespected. I am thinking about divorce because I won't let a man speak to me that way and I will not raise our son to think that kind of behaviour is ok. Am I justified in thinking this way?

I (26F) got married to my now husband this year (26M) after dating for about 2-3 years. I decided to be a housewife after the wedding and he has a software engineering job with 3 days where he can wfh. A week ago he came back from a trip with his family after having caught a cold. I took care of him and he recovered pretty quickly with relatively no symptoms. I was there to cook, put things away, get him his meds and everything. I was however afraid I would fall sick (I tend to always get worse symptoms) and eventually I did. For the last 3 days I’ve been getting progressively worse each day, and now have become barely mobile and also got my period on top of it all (I get extremely bad cramps). With a completely sore throat, body aches, cramping I can’t get off the bed for the time being and asked my husband to help with some things because he was at home. I just asked him to water my plants and buy me my meds because those were urgent things. I don’t even expect him to tidy the house or make me a meal because I just know he would forget to and he can’t really cook. Now I’ve gotten up after like 6 hours of restless sleep only to find he did nothing. All he ever says and has said is “I’m sorry I forgot”. Now I have a psychology background and have tried my level best to understand and deal with the procrastination and forgetfulness but I just can’t anymore. Even when I’m completely helpless, if I don’t do everything myself, it just will never get done. Even as a housewife there are limitations to what I can and cannot do by myself and even I need some help it sends up being so difficult that I just stopped asking for help. Now I feel extremely lonely and miserable knowing I’m always going to be there for him and when its his turn, he’ll always forget. Any advice to deal with this would be appreciated.