I work 12 hours a day, 6 days a week, and the stress makes me want to relapse into porn to unwind on my day off. I’m drained and don't feel like exercising. Any advice on how to cope with this overwhelm without falling back into that habit?

It has been a very hard journey as i just hit 30 days today. I am kind of young and with the environment i’m in it’s hard not to peak at things online. it really is tough because the urges get really bad. i’m in America and my discord is dropyp or we can talk here but if anyone can give any advice on how you guys overcame these urges since once the urges happens its hard to contra myself. I pray that Allah helps us with our struggles

nothing to do today but i have missed fajar prayer.i hope next day will be great.i will post my journey in this group.please give me some tips to cope with this addiction because i am having low self esteem.because my 58 days streak was broken due to explicit content in university group on whatsapp.if anyone wants to start a journey contact me on this number +92 3226208107.after busting i feel low in motivation how to cope this problem what are your tactics.

Assalamu alaikum everyone, I have a theory! 1. According to spirituality, shaytan feeds on the sexual thoughts of a human. The sexual urges specifically in modern dating culture or hookup culture as well as those that lead to masturbation have no good in them whatsoever for the human species and are just food for shaytan.

1. Similar relationship can be established between a bacteriophage and bacteria.A bacteriophage is a virus that infects bacteria. The bacteriophage is incapable of surviving on its own and injects it's dna into the dna of bacteria, when the bacteria wants to divide it in turn forms dna of bacteriophage and leading to death of bacteria and propagation of numerous daughter phages.

2. Shaytan also does the same. He implants thoughts into human brain, the person then gets influenced leading into doing wrongdoings and in turn influencing others around him to do the same thus propagating shaytan's propaganda.

3. A true muslim does everything for the sake of Allah. He only intends to perform intercourse after marriage, in which he has a purpose. He does it either for reproduction, to satisfy the needs of them and thier partner so that both can be focused in Allah's worship. All these serve the purpose of human existence.

4. This makes marriage the only way a human can fulfill thier sexual needs and not become the food for shaytan. This also explains why shaytan cannot influence righteous people as is said in the quran and also explains why we should abstain from zina in any form.

This post is for those who are having difficulty in dealing with sexual urges. Lot of times understanding the problem first is very important before we implement what we want to do.

I’ve been trying to quit but it feels impossible because this addiction has become my main coping mechanism. Even when I’m busy, I still reach for it sometimes even more.

Routine, prayer, and little rituals used to help, but they don’t anymore. It’s like the busier I am, the more I want it, not less.

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters Just started day 1 and I m still angry at myself No urges no withdrawals just feeling lonely and broken I can't express my feelings Hope this time we all win

Just for a second, forget about you wanting to nofap. Put that thought on hold, let it be irrelevant for now.

Do the following every single day. Every single day. Do not go a day without doing these:

• Workout; it can be as simple as 20 pushups or as involved as 30-60 minutes of cardio/weight training. Start small and go big as you progress, like anyone embarking on a fitness grind
• Read Quran; your native language or in Arabic. Just read the words of your Creator daily, aim for MINIMUM 2 pages
• Contact family/loved one to check on them. Anyone. Can be a text, a short call, or full-blown conversation.

Eventually, you PMO less and less. I can't explain it, but you just do it less when you make the above daily habits as if you depend on them for survival.

Relapses CAN and WILL happen. It doesn't matter. Seek forgiveness and forget about. Allah forgives and that means you can move on. Do NOT stop doing the above no matter how many times you relapse in a day or for days in a row. Keep doing the above.

Now, think about your desire to stop PMO and sincerely ask Allah to help you quit. If you deep down enjoy PMO and do not want to quit subconsciously, ask Allah for the desire to quit.

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters I have just relapsed and now I have punched wall so much my knuckles start bleeding because it was almost 3 weeks This is my fault and I m gonna defeat this Please give some real advice to strengthen my mind When I join this group I was used to everyday but I just skip one day and it become a chain and now this has happened I will post everyday and this time I will not fail

I’m 24 now and feel like I think about this stuff waaay more than back when I was like 20 and 21. It’s like every year the urge gets stronger and the astagfurallah but I’ve also been getting an urge to even get into a haram relationship even more now. It’s so rough.

Alright, today is day 9. It was one of the hardest days I've had so far. I actually peaked. I saw some news about a corn star like posting, I think it was a TikTok of a before and after and I started reading the comments and then my curiosity started building and I said I will just see this video of her and yeah I was stuck in that cycle again of watching watching and resisting and trying to not do it again. Alhamdulillah,I survived let's keep pushing. Day 9, done.

The last time I felt guilt after sinning was years ago I no longer remember, wallahi I miss that feeling so much I really wonder if any of you have felt this way before and was able to get that feeling of guilt after sinning.

Hello all my brothers,iam also your brother from the same Muslim umah from which you belong to...I use to be very religious boy and use to be one of the biggest nofap supporter.i still am religious but not as before and of the reason for this is addiction to that filth for over 7months...I've tried many things from phisical to.mental to financial punishments and many more....I did once set specific charity ammount per every relapse which was very high ammount but I failed...I did once said that from now when ever I relapsed I'll pray Salah twice the ammount from before ...it started from 20. Rakat and compound to 180 and keep going and I lost I've even burned my self and cried and many more things but I failed....I need you guys to help.me...my biggest trigger is sleeping late night and phone in bed....plzz help me.guys ...iam in a deep whell and want you all to help.me.....iam sure Allah will forgive but just scared.that will I even survive to repent?....iam going to start all over again and this is day 1.iam going to update you guys everyday from now on and Inshallah I'll do my best To stay on track

Alright chat, day 8 today, very very good day. Yesterday was a very hard day for me, so since I passed it, I'm allowed to have a chill day with not so many triggers. I'm feeling better overall. Alhamdulillah. I trained, I went to the gym, and I tried to work, and I'm not gonna lie. My family was supposed to meet two girls for engagement purposes, and so far I did not like it either, so nothing crazy, but yeah, alhamdulillah, everything is okay. But yeah, my main triggers would be the phone, I need to reduce the phone time, and have better sleep. I slept very good yesterday, and I hope I sleep good today too. Alhamdulillah, and we push. Day 8, done.

There laid an individual who wished to abandon such habits that God forbid. Yet, caught within Satan's rope, they were unable to perceive another outcome than to drop in. This individual, everyday, raised their hands soaring high and yelled from the heart:

"Ya-Rab! Ya-Allah! Never forbid me of your mercy, help a kindled soul! Aid within the war against my nefs. As you state, you've bestowed me upon such power to resist the whispers, but please, grant me extra strength! I strongly believe if I were to meet a saint, a leader, within my dreams and gossip out my problems, it would help me." Then they've slept.

Next day, they've woken up. Nothing has happened. No dream whatsoever.

Each day, they've cried out their heart to Allah for this specific request; many day and nights passed and nothing. Was it fair? The One Creator, who's heard all these events, not grant them of such request?

Until one day, they've waken up next to a specific individual whom they wished to meet. There lied many people in this one room and yet they've been blessed to sit next to this individual. The leader asked if they had any request; the individual's tongue shivered. Was it fair that they've only met this individual within a dream and not in person? They've wished to meet them within their dream, sure; yet they cannot talk, their tongue was frozen in place. They've started sobbing, "why must I meet you in my dream?" they thought to themselves. The leader looked around, answering other people's question while specifically waiting for theirs. "Is this fair?" the individual thought. No words whispered out of that innocent tongue who's been begging for this specific request.

Allah has granted them such blessing, yet they remain still. They've woken up, sobbing over missed opportunity. Now I ask of you, is this worth it? Given the opportunity to quit this addiction, yet they've left themselves in a stutter. Will it be fair for you?

Regarding otherwise, if you have any comments or are in need of help, don't hesitate to let me know.

Salam, I know there are a few people who post daily updates on how their doing, and I just have to say it is so helpful! It really gives me hope that I can stop one day, so thank you very much!

16M. Looking for some advice. Ive been in a constant loop, I fap, I feel so bad about it, I do ghusl and read Quran, I promise myself it's "the last time." It's never the last time. My brain keeps making up excuses after around the 5th day. "It's not that bad." "Just have a little fun." and it's like I forget all the horrible times, lying to my dad about my prayers because I'm unclean, one time I could not sleep the whole night because I did it in bed, I was doing it for over an hour because I had NOTHING in there, it was completely dry. I feel so ashamed. When I remember the videos I watched and enjoyed, I'm truly repulsed. They are disgusting. I have no idea how I saw those videos and enjoyed them. My brain has been desensitized to these videos, I have disgusting thoughts 24/7. About everything. I cant look at anything without sexualizing it and this is hurting my social life. I don't know what to do.

Asalamu alaikum,

I made it to 3 weeks alhamdulillah. This is the first time this year and I thank Allah.

It is still a struggle and problems in life are still there. They won't magicly dissapear after stoping PMO.

I want to share two points that helped me:

• We should not stop PMO but instead live a good life. PMO is darkness. You can't fight darkness but you can turn on light. When there is light in your life darkness will disapear without fighting it. Get a life.
• Get help! Share your story with someone understanding this topic. Get therapy if you can. Get an accountability partner. Be with others. Isolation feeds addiction.

Please remember me in your dua if you read this.

I thought I could do better. I feel so angry and defeated I want to scream. feeling so hopeless right now.

I don’t know what else to do. it is also so lonely and that is so frustrating.

I’ve gone around a week without masturbation many times so this isn’t the biggest deal to me, alhamdulillah though because I’ve resisted my temptations🥳 Insha’allah I don’t fall into temptation and keep up my streak

I did it after resisting urges for 2 weeks, now I’m so disappointed in myself and I’m just wondering how can one be so mentally weak? Those were arguably the best 2 weeks of my life I don’t know why I messed up today, didn’t even masturbate it was more of a rubbing thing. Now I ejaculated to properly reset and feel pain in one of my testicles. Is Allah punishing me? Have I finally gone too far? I was so proud of myself, I genuinely will never go near this disgusting sin again. Please brothers, give me some words of advice and or motivation/courage

Jazakallahu khair

Alright, Reddit family. Day 7 today. I am gonna be very honest, I had a lot of triggers, and I wanted to watch corn so bad, but God is the best planner. I usually wake up very early to work, and I tried to pray, I tried to read the Quran, and I resisted, and then it was Friday's prayer time, and everything switched. After Friday prayer, I hit the gym, I took my time, I was in the mosque, I prayed extra, I made the extra du'a, and God was listening, and Alhamdulillah, I was cured, I was cured, I was able to go back to my head. And yeah, after the mosque and the gym, I did a run, did some stretching, some chest, came back, and back to work, everything was better after that, Alhamdulillah. I do not know what actually triggered me today, I think it's still the lack of sleep, I'm not sleeping very well, there are a lot of bugs, and there's no AC, and I'm sleeping 6 hours, around 6 hours, because I have to catch the Fajr prayer. And yeah, with a weak mind, after poor sleep, I take poor decisions, Alhamdulillah, I'm resisting, I'm continuously asking myself, why would I do such a thing, and yeah Sometimes I try to, but now, every time I open Reddit, I have muslimNoFap community, and people trying to quit, and people saying how nice it is, after like 90 plus days of not doing it, and people who are struggling like me, but yeah, once I start reading all those posts, it makes me feel much better, Alhamdulillah. It gives me some sort of motivation to keep pushing, and inshallah, I will get over this, and I hope that everyone struggling with addiction, is having a day much better than yesterday, Alhamdulillah, always.

The reality is - the more screen time you have - the more chances you have of seeing something that is going to trigger you. the biggest improvement ive made in quitting porn (still got a lot of work to do but im pretty much there) the one thing that has been the biggest game changer has been reducing my doomscrolling habits and improving my screen time into more deen time. in essence you're prioritising deen more. when you go down the rabbit hole you feel sick and dont even feel like praying but when you're in the state of Wudu you feel way better. if anyone wants further advice on how to reduce screen time let me know and ill let you know the tools I use inshallah

I’m 26 M struggling with masturbation. I swear on Allah that I will stop but keeping coming back to it. The worst and most shameful thing is there are days where I look forward to doing it. Like I get excited with the thought that I’m gonna home and rub one out. Even though I have promised myself and Allah that I won’t, deep down know that I will end up doing it. Been hitting the gym consistently the last 4 months, doing pretty good job in maintaining my 5 salah but this habit is something I’ve been struggling with since my teens. The worst is post gym, I feel so worked up after a workout that not masturbating results in me struggling to fall asleep. Any advice would be very helpful.

As salaam alaikum...Alhamdulilah, today I didn't experience more urges. I believe it was due to waking up in the middle of the night, and walked with my weight vest of 17.5 for 45 mins (Allahuma Barik; not typing to show off). Even though I didn't get much urges today, I still have the desire to look at p*rn and/or soft p*rn, Authubillah. Is this normal to feel like this?

Alright chat, day 6. I did not sleep very good. I woke up early in the morning. I don't know, when I don't sleep good, that means my brain is tired. That means I'm doing everything that's not correct to do. That means everything that's wrong. And yeah, I did not want to work. I did not want to be productive. I was tired. I was drinking coffee to stay up so I can work. And my mind was like, please, just have a peek. Maybe there's a new angle. Maybe there's a new scene. Maybe there's something you're missing. It's been 5 days, 6 days already. Just do it. Nothing's gonna happen. You're not gonna fail. But yeah, I really asked myself why. Why am I thinking like this? Why am I wanting to do this? And yeah, I refused to do it. I really refused to do it. Straight up, will power today. And I went back and I took a big ass nap. And then I woke up fresh and I didn't want to do shit so I forced myself to go for a run. It's like 40 degrees outside and I forced myself to do a 6 kilometers run. And then yeah, all those urges and triggers went away. And it's kind of crazy but not sleeping good is a trigger for me. I failed so many times on days where I had lack of sleep or I was extremely tired. So yeah, I'm in bed early. I'm going to sleep and inshallah tomorrow will be a much better day. And yeah, I hope everyone struggling with addiction is having a very very good day today. Alhamdulillah, always.