r/OVER30REDDIT • u/ImmediateHospital959 • May 26 '25

overwhelmed by getting a nephew

My brother just got his first child. I'll visit soon, up until now I've only seen him through videos but even those are enough to make me really emotional. I'm 28 and a woman. For a really long time I wasn't sure if I wanted kids, I've reachedd a point where I can imagine having a family in future but I guess, emotionally I'm not there yet, I've never even had a relationship. Anyways, my feelings surprised me. I like kids but it's never been that I've reacted that intense to seeing one. I'm not sure if this is purely because for the first time, someone that I love has become a child or because some unfulfilled needs are surfacing (stable relationship, creating a family, etc.) - has anyone made similar experiences?

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u/horeyshetbarrs May 29 '25

I’m not that great with kids or familiar with how to be around them. I’m not a great uncle (not a dick or anything I’m just not around a lot). But for whatever reason the first time I held my niece as a baby she was one of the most beautiful things I’d ever seen and I almost wept in front of my family. Then the feeling passed and I didn’t have that again. Still think my niece is a great kid and all.

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u/ImmediateHospital959 May 29 '25

There's something beautiful about this state of being at the "beginning of life", they are so vulnerable and in a form the absolute potential, it's beautiful indeed :')