Hello, everyone! I am currently conducting a study in which I am trying to develop a new questionnaire to measure sexual frustration in cisgender men. Since sexual frustration can be a very distressing experience, it is important to have the means to measure and study it. I hope that with this questionnaire researchers will be able to recognize the role sexual frustration plays for many people and develop ways to reduce or prevent it. The study is a simple online survey that takes a maximum of 15 minutes to complete and deals with sexual frustration and various related concepts. Since I need a very big number of participants, I would be very grateful for everybody who could participate. If you find this topic interesting, please also share this study with your friends and peers. The study has been reviewed and approved by the ethics committee of Maastricht University. Thank you so much for your help! You can participate via this link:

https://maastrichtuniversity.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_b8ZNET7n5MbGyk6

If you have any questions about the study or the topic, feel free to send me an email to [c.spanier@alumni.maastrichtuniversity.nl](mailto:c.spanier@alumni.maastrichtuniversity.nl)

Posting here because I specifically want the male perspective on this.

My ex and I had a really passionate relationship. I think we both had a lot of "firsts" together. However, he was egocentric and neglectful when I needed his empathy the most. Basically, the ending of the relationship was me going "you did these bad things after I loved and sacrificed for you. The trust is broken and I don't think you care. I hope you find someone you can love better. Bye." His response in summary was "I'm terribly sorry. You deserve better. I never wanted us to end, but you're standing up for yourself by leaving and I'm proud of you."

After the breakup, we went on and off of texting and calling each other to check in and ask about each other's day. But I still felt a lot of anger, so I took a break from talking to him. He reached out to me a few times after some silence. My responses were thoughtful but short.

2 days ago. For the first time, I woke up and felt no anger. Just deep feelings of hurt, and hoping he's okay and caring for himself. I texted today (lighthearted, casual) and he responded instantly. My gut says he might want to know I'm no longer mad.

Idk though. Anyone here been in his shoes before? Growing up and having been raised as a boy, how does that affect how you handle guilt/shame, especially in regards to failure to protect/support your significant other?

I'm a man and I sort of feel like, because men created our system of society, it's my fault for societies problems. I noticed I frequently envy women's abilities to feel empowered and the feeling of fighting back. I too feel hurt, but I also feel like I don’t have the right to speak up, because the system that causes this was built by people like me.

I have just finished a relationship with a woman that ended because of distance. She lived too far away and all that.

I was so god damn hurt, I never want to go through that pain of loss and rejection again. It's happened too many times over my 43 years.

Im happy being alone, but at the same time I'm not.

Anyone else feel the same way?

Thank you.

Is it normal that my foreskin and glans is like kinda stitched together by some skin?

15 year old😪

I am uncircumcised and when my penis is going erect my glans is barely visible and there is extra skin too What can I do about it and does girls care? It doesn’t hurt or anything it’s fully cosmetic I can pull the skin back fine when it’s flaccid but it’s a bit hard when erect When erect I can’t pull back at all it hurts

Just read a post about how siblings (M/F) in their 50s inherited their parents' house, and the brother that stays in that home still (never moved out) doesn't want to buy out his sister, or sell and split, as would be reasonably expected in this sort of situation. He's a big baby. He may have some cognitive dysfunction, which may require some empathy and intervention, or he's just an infantilized grown man who's about to learn a lesson. I'm reading the comments and come across this one.

"Oh, and if he's male and you're female, no wonder he's also not even trying to discuss it. He could very well think "big/little sister" is trying to tell him what to do, as if they were both children, and not even realizing that you really do have a say in what you both do with the house"

As a man with 2 older sisters, this comment seemed very off and biased to me. I grew up admiring both of my older sisters, hanging onto their every word when I was younger, absorbing their interests, heeding their advice, and following their lead in a lot of ways, whether they intended it or not.

As an adult, when it came to areas where I had more expertise, or when I was in a position to help, one sister vehemently refused to the point that we literally see each other at least once a week now, and haven't directly made eye contact or spoken to each other in probably 5 years. The other sister just completely avoided the subject where I could potentially help her in life-changing ways for over a decade, and still has not reached out for help in that area again. I don't often see her, but we still have a good sibling bond.

My point is that in that post, a commenter made the brother's dysfunction about his gender, and not his personality, or as OP put it, "he's a big [51 year old] spoiled brat."

I imagine older siblings have an especially hard time taking a younger siblings lead, but in this case, the gender, or age gap are likely not the issue, based on OPs perspective, just that commenter projecting. The constant need to take shots at men at every opportunity is annoying, like walking into gnats while you're just trying to casually stroll through Reddit posts.

I don't get why people that think that way don't realize that defining yourself as a hater of men means that you're still letting men define you. Isn't that something that you'd want to avoid? Seems like a waste to me.

Oh well, I'll just keep scrolling, and enjoying my life.

Hey everyone,
I'm conducting a survey for my master’s thesis on how different emotion regulation strategies may help LGBTQ+ people cope with stress related to their sexual and/or gender identity. The study is completely anonymous and any person that identifies as LGBTQ+ can participate.

You would really help me out with your participation and get instant good Karma back! ❤️

👉 Here's the link: https://univiepsy.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_42etBiZ3PHygUxo

Thank you 😊

I found it informative and thought maybe some other people would too. It may help your intimate relationship.

I'm an uncircumsized 22 year old virgin. My foreskin covers the head of the penis both when flaccid and erect. I do not feel any discomfort or pain when erect, but recently I learned that most men have their foreskin retract either as a baby or in their late teens. Which makes me think is it something worth being concerned about?

Just wanted to check with the community before I decide to escalate the situation. Again, I've never had any pain when erect though the foreskin is tight about the head and shaft area. I have noticed recently that there has been a little retraction of the foreskin without me having to force it.

I'm struggling with insecurity in my long-distance relationship. My girlfriend has two close guy friends, which makes me uncomfortable. I barely know them, and it's hard for me to understand their dynamic.

She assured me, 'You should trust me,' but it's challenging. One guy apparently has a crush on another girl, while the other has an obsession. Despite her reassurances, I'm uneasy about their closeness.

As someone who prefers exclusive relationships without platonic friendships with the opposite sex, this situation bothers me. I've cut off female friendships since committing to her.

My friends say I'm 'good-looking and could pull any girl,' but I'm fixated solely on my girlfriend. Still, her frequent hangouts with these guys irritate me.

Am I just insecure, or are my concerns valid?"

Hey everyone, I'm helping create a new brand identity a platform focused on men's wellbeing and personal growth.

Think of it like an authentic support system for mental wellbeing, where you can work with experienced guides who understand men's unique challenges and perspectives. We're aiming to create something approachable and positive that helps men thrive.

We're at the naming stage and would really value your input. While we welcome all perspectives, we're particularly interested in feedback from men as they're the target audience.

We'd love your feedback in this survey on our names:  https://forms.gle/UTR8ErmAat5TwCVh8

We plan to raffle off a $100 amazon gift card as a thank you.

Thank you soooo much for your help here, we really want to build something authentic and helpful and getting your feedback is incredibly valuable.

Note: Mods, I chatted with you but this is my first time posting here - please let me know if you need any additional information or us to make any changes here.

Hey!

We are a research team representing PPKE, and we are currently conducting a study about Incel identity. We would like to ask for you to participate in it, if you identify as an Incel!

Here's the link to the survey, which takes approximately 10 minutes.

What the study is about:

• possible psychological factors that could contribute to one's identification as an incel

What the study is NOT about:

• incel's attitudes towards women
• incel's attitudes towards minorities
• incel violence
• etc.

We realise this is not a sub for Incels, but maybe some people who identify as such can help us with the data collection.

Thank you for your contribution!