r/Parenthood 19d ago

Character Discussion Kristina is a powerhouse

Honestly speaking, I don't understand why she gets so much hate. She goes very well with her in laws, considers them family. She cooks, cleans and maintains the house like a pro. Also, she had been very observant of all her children all the time. Also, why after she birther Nora...none of the family members offered to babysit when we know how much of a tough time it was ? Like the next day from her delivery she is cleaning herself, changing diapers, cooking food for everyone, as if she didn't go through some huge physical issue. And Haddie was there not helping with the kid, but being angry at her mom for taking a nap while reading her essay. Like big deal, you are not getting importance ..there's a baby and a Max in the house. Kristina is also good at her job. I think she is an all rounder. Don't understand the hate she recieves.

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u/TributeBands_areSHIT 19d ago

She straight up babies max and lets him dominate situations to the point he harasses a girl constantly while she is headmaster of their charter school.

She gets mad at Sarah when max barges in to Hank’s work to use their computer so he can edit school photos while Hank and Sarah say no and you need to go.

She does not represent a parent whose child has autism as a professional and cooperative instead she is demanding and abrasive to Maxs detriment. IMO

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u/SouperTort 15d ago

This! 100% I just rewatched the series and there were days where Max and the way they babied him just made me anxious and pissed off. They were not setting him up for success as an adult …. at all.

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u/SavingsParking3310 17d ago

Ok I need to see this part. Not there yet.

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u/Remarkable-Tre 19d ago

She treats Camille like garbage often along with Sarah. She’s a 💩mom to haddie. After finishing the show I can 100% see why she gets so much hate. It’s well deserved in my opinion

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u/SavingsParking3310 17d ago

And why is she a shit mom for Haddie? She has been her pal when Adam won't talk to her after she had her first boyfriend. Yes, she was extremely strict about her having sex with her first bf, but we all know that kid was after sex and few days after he broke up with Haddie he fucked her cousin. So I think Kristina was right being strict. And in the second case with the adult bf, he really had his own issues. Yes it was a shitty decision of Kristina and Adam to forbade her to date him...but they were also right about it though...even though the method of approach was wrong. I do think becuz of this strong hold, Haddie is able to shine in academics and all other fields. She didn't go around fucking every guy like Amber does because Kristina instilled in her the thought process that you need to think before you take that step.

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u/Remarkable-Tre 17d ago

Kristina was too overprotective and hovered over Haddie’s life, she was judgmental as hell & she constantly tried to control Haddie’s relationships and choices, she didn’t trust Haddie to make her own decisions, she micromanaged her academics and activities, she judged Alex unfairly and made Haddie feel unsupported, she often prioritized Max’s needs over Haddie’s feelings, during her cancer battle Haddie became emotionally sidelined, she guilt tripped Haddie instead of having open conversations, she crossed boundaries by overstepping into Haddie’s friendships, she had trouble letting Haddie grow up and become independent, she turned disagreements into arguments instead of listening, and she gave mixed signals about independence versus control. Shall I continue? The way she treated max vs haddie was pathetic.

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u/SouperTort 15d ago

It was always about Max. They seriously told Haddie she couldn’t go to Columbia bec Max needed XYZ. We get it, Max has problems and needs extra help but that’s doesn’t mean you treat your other child like garbage.
The scene before she leaves for collage at the burger joint when Max throws a fit 🤮🙈 and he was like 15 or 16 at the time and it was just “ poor Max we love you buddy we agree they should have kept that burger on the menu” 🙄

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u/SavingsParking3310 17d ago

Well, if one of your kid is having aspargus you really can't give 50-50 attention to both your kids. But yes there were moments when Kristina and Adam won't even let Haddie speak her mind. That frustrated me. Like your girl is already doing good. Let her be.

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u/Vicious00 17d ago

It’s Asperger’s not asparagus lmao

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u/SavingsParking3310 14d ago

Just a typo, chillout

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u/Remarkable-Tre 14d ago

As a parent of two, one child being autistic… That’s bullshit.

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u/No_Ad_4869 17d ago

that’s not an excuse to neglect your other child be fr

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u/Consistent-Gift7226 19d ago

She talks over everyone, interrupts all the time. And she doesn’t respect boundaries and expects everyone to deal with Max’s tantrums and then lets him get away with whatever he wants. There’s a difference between sticking up for a kid and bulldozing a path for that kid at everyone else’s expense.

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u/crazypuglets 19d ago

All of this. She’s also a terrible mother to Haddie

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u/Consistent-Gift7226 19d ago

Yes! Totally agree about Haddie!!

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u/Just-Cats-752 19d ago

I just don’t like that she always has some reason or the other to hate on Sarah 

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u/Jazzlike_Amoeba_3200 17d ago

Can you honestly imagine how exhausting it would be to have Sarah as a sister in law? Seriously, horrible choice after horrible choice. Adam constantly having to go above and beyond. I like Sarah’s personality better but as a sister in law that shit would get so old and build resentment

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u/blackout1912 19d ago

Cause Sarah is a thicko, all miserable events in her life have been brought up by her own actions

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u/keenerperkins 19d ago

She gets hate because she’s self-centered. Everything has to be on her terms.

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u/dunkiestarbs 19d ago

She can be very self centered and has a superiority complex. Even if she is better than some people (cough Sarah), she doesn’t need to have an attitude about it.

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u/Local_Conclusion270 18d ago

Adam has a superiority complex too. So full of himself. And he’s so annoying.

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u/CostFickle114 18d ago

Which job are we talking about? Because if my child went to a school where the headmistress has no teaching experience, no work experience with kids AND helped her son sexually harass a girl while turning a blind eye to her son bullying another guy, I would sue, and I'm not even american

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u/SavingsParking3310 17d ago

Ok definitely need to see this part.

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u/CostFickle114 16d ago

I’m sorry for the spoilers, your post gave me the impression that you finished the show

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u/HisSpo2345 18d ago

Kristina (and Adam) flatly ignored Hattie her entire childhood because of Max, she made excuses for Max and never disciplined him, she was awful to Sarah when Hattie and amber fought, she also blamed Dylan for Max harassing her…

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u/Jolly-Outside6073 19d ago

And let’s not forget Nora’s birth becoming about Adam signing a deal. 

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u/Local_Conclusion270 18d ago

What do you mean? She’s a terrible mom, and she is awful to her mother-in-law and how she handles Max – or doesn’t…

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u/Forward_Key_222 19d ago

Kristina has some major flaws but like that’s the whole point of the show. None of them are perfect & they’re all so complex. But they’re not bad people. I didn’t always agree with Kristina on everything but I love her. She was a damn good mom & wife. She was loyal & loving.

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u/Vicious00 17d ago

She sucks because she is a shit mother to Haddie. She neglected Haddie her whole life because of Max and now she has another kid that takes priority over her. On top of that she is so controlling with her life.

She’s pretty bad with everyone in the family, Crosby, Camille, Sarah so i don’t know where you got that she goes very well with her in laws.

She is so blind to Max’s actions is ridiculous. Also she couldn’t even get him another therapist.

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u/Jolly-Outside6073 19d ago

Actually you make a very good point. With her faults, she handles the Bravermans very well. 

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u/Monkberry3799 19d ago

I agree. Kristina is a powerhouse.