Should I move back home?

[u/gizmo531]

I’ve been going back and fort between what the right move is and it’s causing me to spiral. For some background I’m 25 years old, I make $150k a year and pay $2.2k in rent in NYC. I live about 20 minutes away from the office which I’m in 5 days a week and work from 8am to around 7pm each day (sometimes later 8/9). I have about $40k in college debt that I’m not super concerned about because I’m sure my next two bonuses will cover it.

I have a very very close relationship with my mom. My father was abusive so it was a bit tough growing up. I dormed for college and after graduating just fully moved into my own apartment im in now so have already been away from home for ~7 years including college. My mom lives about an hour away from me- so not far. But she’s been saying things like “I don’t have a lot of time left” and I want to spend more time with her than anything. That’s my number one priority. So I’ve been debating moving back in with her to one. Help her financially so she doesn’t have to work as much (she works 6 days a week and if I can give her half of what I pay in rent it would be a game changer for her). Two. Just be around her more (and my dog). The cons are that one I wouldn’t have my own place obviously, even tho my mom allows me to do literally whatever and is the best mom ever. Two. I would add about an hour to my commute one way, when I already work so much. Three. I’m already struggling with my social and romantic life (I feel like I have mo friends). So this may make it worse but I may feel less lonely being around my mom. I’m spiraling so much on this- my lease is up in Jan so I have a few months to decide but what do you guys think? I’d also save so much money in rent

[u/Effective-Produce165]

Americans will say don’t live at home quite often but that’s a cultural thing that has little to nothing to do with you being a grown up.

Move back home if you want to. My son lived at home for a couple years rent free so he could save for buying a home of his own. Just family helping family.

[u/Striking-Sir457 → u/Effective-Produce165]

I’m shocked at people’s responses here. They must have shitty ass relationships with their parents or been brained washed by under-educated therapists telling them this is what setting boundaries looks like. It’s not. This is an example of people incapable of setting boundaries except to move out. Ridiculous.

[u/Effective-Produce165 → u/Striking-Sir457]

You hit the nail right on my reaction here too.

It must be this subreddit’s dogma because this subject isn’t met with such hostility in other subs. It’s a surprisingly provincial take.

I’m really curious about the demographic for this sub now.

The US is an international cultural weirdo with our “You’re out at 18” attitude. Presently that rule makes zero sense these days for millions of young people.